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weird person in group chat
haschackforever
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hi. im new here and i didnt really know where to get advice/help about this. me and a few freinds have a group chat that 1 of my freinds runs. shes in charge and can let people in the group and ban ppl if they do sumthing wrong. anyway. most off us are about my age (im 13) or a lil older. but 1 person that comes to our group is older and she really werids me out. she allways wants to role play about shrinking and being small. like i will log in and the first thing she says is she cast a spell on me to make me small and stuff. and she wont really talk to anyone in a nomral way she really only wants to talk in role play about being shrunk and small. she says its not a sex thing... but i kinda think it is. coz when i did intrenet safety 1 thing that was in the lesson was that if sumone wont change the subject and only wants to talk about 1 thing thats a warning flag. i cant tell my parents or they mite not let me use the chat and then i wont get to talk to my freinds (i have super bad anxiety so most of my freinds are online not irl). but i dont really know what to do. i try to ignore this person but sumtimes she keeps pushing. coz its not actually bout sex the girl that runs the group says its fine but i think its not fine and that it probly is a sex thing for this person. can any1 help? idk what to do.
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Sounds like a confusing situation, sounds like she's being quite relentless with it. How much older is she than you, do you know?
Have you tried telling her it makes you feel uncomfortable when she speaks like that? Or if not, do you reckon you could talk to another friend about it and see how they feel?
- Lucy
it's pretty good that you shared your worries and it's clear why you have some.
Look, I notice that you wrote that you get upset for being rude..unfortunately a lot of people use our politness against us( You have a choice to talk or nor to talk, if you don't want you can tell about it and in case if person keeps pushing it's her who's rude and crossing the border. But even if you ignore I understand that it's still disturbing cause she texts you...I don't know what chat you use, but is it possible probably to block this very person not to see her messages?
Probably you can either talk to other guys in chat about that and if they feel the same they can ask her to stop as well just to support you. The more people support you the more chances that she'll stop.
I have in mind also that probably you feel bad cause you don't want to have comnflict and don't want to be against of someone , in this case just remember that your health mental or physical is definitly is much more important than if smb will be upset with you behavior. You can ask politely for the first time, if person doesn't understand you can act differently and not to feel any worries
Hope it'll get better soon
This sounds like a really frustrating situation.
Like @Valerialetto said, your mental health and happiness comes first. If it is making you uncomfortable it might be worth trying to speak to them about how their words are making you feel?
I wouldn't consider this to be dramatic or antagonistic if you approach it in a sensitive way.
However, if you didn't feel comfortable with this, I think talking to the others is a great idea as it may be that you are all feeling the same way and find this unacceptable.
You deserve to feel at ease when talking to your friends - you don't need to put up with something which makes you feel uncomfortable.
that does sound unusual and confusing. I think its def good idea to block her if this is making you uncomfortable and if it does cause drama you just say you felt uncomfortable and they should just appreciate that and hopefully shouldnt cause too much of an issue.
Hope youre okay
Keep us updated if you want to talk through anything else.