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So this is awkward i met my friends friends a couple of time and we got attracted to each other. However ever I want to Take things slower and get to know him more however he keeps asking about sex and sending nudes and doing things I don’t want to happen yet.. Correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t think this is sexting as I’m 20 he’s 18.. I’m not ready yet because I know the risks. I don’t want to upset him by saying anything
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It sounds like you're feeling a little awkward about the situation. That's totally understandable given that you want to take things at a slower pace. I think your feelings are totally valid!
If he's sending sexual pictures and talking graphically about sex then yes, that is definitely sexting and certainly isn't okay if you've expressed to him that you're not ready yet. Age has nothing to do with it - it shouldn't matter whether he is older or younger than you, if he's overstepping your boundaries, let him know.
It's always better to talk these things out than let people assume what you're thinking. Let him know that his behaviour is making you uncomfortable and where you stand on sexting/having a sexual relationship. If he's serious about getting to know you and developing a relationship from your attraction, he should be respectful of that.
Take care and let us know how things go
i also wanted to add that you deserve what is right and comfortable for you. Telling him may feel uncomfortable for you - but sexting also sound uncomfortable for you - and you need to think about your needs and wants more over his around these things as two way thing that both people should feel comfortable with cause deserve what is comfortable and he should be more than okay with that and if not then def May have to think about his intentions and relationship
all the best!
How are things going? I was just wondering if you wanted to speak any more about this.
I think @Shaunie is spot on when she says that you need to prioritise your needs and wants. Talking about this with him may feel uncomfortable but you need to decide whether or not that's more uncomfortable than being in a position where someone is violating (intentionally or unintentionally) your boundaries.
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