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  chubbydumpling Posts: 487 Listening Ear

  July 2019 edited July 2019

  Hey @L100
  
  It sounds like you're feeling a little awkward about the situation. That's totally understandable given that you want to take things at a slower pace. I think your feelings are totally valid!
  
  If he's sending sexual pictures and talking graphically about sex then yes, that is definitely sexting and certainly isn't okay if you've expressed to him that you're not ready yet. Age has nothing to do with it - it shouldn't matter whether he is older or younger than you, if he's overstepping your boundaries, let him know. 
  
  It's always better to talk these things out than let people assume what you're thinking. Let him know that his behaviour is making you uncomfortable and where you stand on sexting/having a sexual relationship. If he's serious about getting to know you and developing a relationship from your attraction, he should be respectful of that. 
  
  Take care and let us know how things go

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  JustV Community Manager Posts: 5,306 Part of The Furniture

  July 2019

  Nothing to add, but wanted to say I totally agree with @chubbydumpling. Wise words.

  All behaviour is a need trying to be met.

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  Siena Posts: 15,495 Skive's The Limit

  July 2019

  I agree with @chubbydumpling
  
  i also wanted to add that you deserve what is right and comfortable for you. Telling him may feel uncomfortable for you - but sexting also sound uncomfortable for you -  and you need to think about your needs and wants more over his around these things as two way thing that both people should feel comfortable with cause deserve what is comfortable and he should be more than okay with that and if not then def May have to think about his intentions and relationship 
  
  all the best!

  “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley

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  chubbydumpling Posts: 487 Listening Ear

  July 2019

  Hi @L100
  
  How are things going? I was just wondering if you wanted to speak any more about this. 
  
  I think @Shaunie is spot on when she says that you need to prioritise your needs and wants. Talking about this with him may feel uncomfortable but you need to decide whether or not that's more uncomfortable than being in a position where someone is violating (intentionally or unintentionally) your boundaries. 
  
  Please keep us updated and let us know what support we can offer you

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