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My family won't accept my sex life
I'm single and enjoy frequent casual sex. I'm very happy with that because I love sex and I don't want a relationship. I usually keep my sex life private, but recently my parents asked me about it. I have sex at the girls' places, at my flat or in my car. I have never introduced girls to my parents or brought them to my parents' house - due to my family's old-fashioned, conservative attitude to sex. Until they said so recently, I didn't realise that they'd wrongly assumed I'm celibate and asked me why I don't seem to show an interest in girls. I corrected them and told them I'm very interested in girls and have a sex buddy, as well as flings and one-night stands. They're so naive that I had to explain to them what those terms mean. They were shocked, horrified and angry with me. They believe that people should know each other for a long time before they even kiss, let alone have sex. They also think that sex must always be confined to long-term monogamous relationships, preferably marriage. I've told them that I don't want that, to which my mother said: "you shouldn't be having sex then - stay away from girls until you're ready to commit to one - single people shouldn't have sex." They've told me that they're very disappointed in me and that they didn't raise me to be the way I am. They've told the rest of the family, who've reacted likewise. I used to get on well with my family, but now I've almost been disowned by them. Everyone in my family now views me with contempt, even though I'm not doing anything wrong. I use a condom every time, I don't mislead anyone, everyone consents, is old enough, I'm not breaking any laws or doing any harm. I live and let live - I don't mind anyone having whatever opinions and beliefs they choose. However, I don't share my family's sex-negative attitude; I don't want it imposed on me, nor do I want to be rejected by them because I choose to be a sexually-active, young, free and single man. Please advise me how I can persuade my family, especially my parents, to accept me living the way I choose to. Sadly, my parents are both seriously ill, so there can't be years to allow them to gradually accept my sex life. I need to know what to say to them so that, before they die, they will stop resenting me for my lifestyle choice. I couldn't stand becoming monogamous or celibate and I don't want my dying parents to hate me.