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What do I do, My head is spinning.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Well I am really confused right now. Coz i have three main people in my life right now. All lads, They are making my head spin and they are always there.

1) there is my ex - he says he stil luvs me and i know that i still luv him. We talk alot and stuff but i don't know what to do. we were together for about 6 months and we were really close. We stil are great friends but we both want more. He is always on my mind and i still get really upset that we aren't together.

2) there is this guy who really likes me and i think he is ok, but better as a friend. Then i have everybody coming upto me and asking me to go with him and give him a chance. I don't know what to do. i don't want to go with him but i don't want tohurt him.

3) The there is this other guy who i like (not half as much as my ex) but he thinks he is in luv with me. he has been with his girlfriend for 2 years but he says that he can't get me out of his head. i like him and i would go with him if he asked, but there is always his girlfriend. she has a reputation for hurting people (Badly)

So what do i do. Who do i choose i luv my ex, but i don't know what to do about that other two. Please help me.

Thanx Luv Tek-ila

Editd because i am having a blonde day

[ 28-05-2002: Message edited by: Tek-ila ]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i always say that getting back with you ex is a bad idea but it depends on why you split up really. you said that you see guy number two as more of a friend so dont even go there, and you said that you dont like guy number three half as much as your ex, so dont bother with him cos you'll always be comparing him with your ex which wont be fair. hes also got a girlfriend so it would be best to leave well alone. i'd say the best to go for is your ex if you say you both love eachother still, and you get upset that your not still together, but why did you split up? how long ago did you split up?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We split up about a month ago cause we argued alot and people were spreading rumors. we were just basically arguing way too much. But i think that our break up has just made us both realise how much we luv each other. But we are both scared of what to do next. It is all so complicated coz he is in the same situation. it is weird.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by angelbabe:
    <STRONG>well i always say that getting back with you ex is a bad idea </STRONG>

    I'll second that, from a few bad experiences of getting back together with ex girlfriends!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that after a month of being just friends, if you still love eachother you should give it another go. a month is long enough to realise what you want, if you had only split a few days ago i would have said not to bother going back out with him cos things wont have changed much and you'll just be arguing again, but a month is quite a long time and you said that being split up has made you realise how much you love eachother. this is a good thing, cos if you ever get into another argument you will be stronger cos you realise that you do both really love eachother and dont want arguments to ruin it for you. if you were arguing with a boyfriend that you had only just started going out with then there could be problems cos at the start of a relationship people are just getting used to the idea of going out with eachother, and are getting to know eachother. since you were going out with him for six months then it is only really normal that you argue.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It sounds to me like you know that you really want your ex back, you love him, he loves you, that's what'll help iron out arguments.
    don't worry bout the other two: feel flattered they like you, but think of yourself. be selfish coz its really what u want that matters, just be honest with them even if its a bit icky.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    What is stopping you getting back with your ex? It might help to think that over and think whether your feelings for each other are strong enough to overcome the reasons why you split. I definately wouldn't do anything with bloke number 2 because you say you just see him as a friend and it would be cruel to be him and you if you were to do anything with him.

    Utimately you have tofollow your heart and do what you think is right and what will make you happy not what others think. I know its easier to say it that do it cos I find it hard to follow that peice of advice.

    Take care and be happy
    Ann
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    What is stopping you getting back with your ex? It might help to think that over and think whether your feelings for each other are strong enough to overcome the reasons why you split. I definately wouldn't do anything with bloke number 2 because you say you just see him as a friend and it would be cruel to be him and you if you were to do anything with him.

    Utimately you have tofollow your heart and do what you think is right and what will make you happy not what others think. I know its easier to say it that do it cos I find it hard to follow that peice of advice.

    Take care and be happy
    Ann
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whoops sorry double post snd i forgot to mention guy number 3. Last year I doubted my feeling for my other half so I split up with her and went of with a guy but it felt so wrong. Thats part of the reason she has dumped me now because she feels that that shows I never loved her and I was juast with her for insecurity. Even though I love her with all my heart. anyway the moral of the story is steer clear of anyone who's in a relationship especially if u aint sure they are right for you cos you will cause heart ache for all concerned.

    sorry
    AnnMarie
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IMHO I don't think that you should get with any of them. Tek-ila, you have a lot of problems at the moment and I think that you really need to work through them before you can really settle down in a relationship. I would strongly suggest that you keep each of these guys as friends for the foreseeable future as that is what you really need right now.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Loopi:
    <STRONG>IMHO I don't think that you should get with any of them. Tek-ila, you have a lot of problems at the moment and I think that you really need to work through them before you can really settle down in a relationship. I would strongly suggest that you keep each of these guys as friends for the foreseeable future as that is what you really need right now.</STRONG>

    Seconded
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by awol:
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    Seconded</STRONG>

    Ironic <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    insnt it just
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i have decided not to go for any of the lads. I am going for a completely different one. But tonight i am out on the pull in hanley with my mates and then after that i am going to try and get with this other lad. So all wish me luck :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well good luck in hanley! Hope you succeed.
    Who's the other lucky lad then?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh, also i think it's good you didn't chose the guy your friends wanted you to. If you'd have done that you would have regretted it. :)
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