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When is a relationship a relationship?
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So you have met someone and you are “dating”…
You know what you feel about them but you’re not sure how they feel about you.
At what point is it appropriate to have the conversation?
Should you need to have the chat at all?
After all should you not have some idea of how they feel about you?
An article in the telegraph touches on this exact subject. When is a relationship a relationship and pin points 8 weeks as the authors cut off point for a decision to “Are we official”?
Although I feel 8 weeks exactly maybe a little soon to give a definitive answer about “making it official” I do feel at this point the chat may be necessary just so you can know if you are on the same page going forward.
After all if you are looking for a relationship and the other person isn’t – it’s probably better to know this sooner rather than later.
So what do you think… 8 weeks? Is this too soon or even too long?
You know what you feel about them but you’re not sure how they feel about you.
At what point is it appropriate to have the conversation?
Should you need to have the chat at all?
After all should you not have some idea of how they feel about you?
An article in the telegraph touches on this exact subject. When is a relationship a relationship and pin points 8 weeks as the authors cut off point for a decision to “Are we official”?
Although I feel 8 weeks exactly maybe a little soon to give a definitive answer about “making it official” I do feel at this point the chat may be necessary just so you can know if you are on the same page going forward.
After all if you are looking for a relationship and the other person isn’t – it’s probably better to know this sooner rather than later.
So what do you think… 8 weeks? Is this too soon or even too long?
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I think you do have to have the talk. I think 8-10 weeks is probably fair enough. It's plenty long enough for someone to decide if they're wanting a relationship, and whether they want a relationship with you. If they don't know after two months then they probably don't want a relationship with you. It's only fair to get it straight whether you want a relationship or whether you just want sex and a bit of company when you're bored or lonely or horny.
I think it all really depends on the relationship between the two involved, and that the conversation and 'official chat' will develop naturally over time. Some people become official very soon, and others after a few months.
I think of it as a good time to test the waters and find out how you really feel about the other person before stamping on the relationship title - do you want to be with this person? Do you have strong feelings towards them? It's important that you know the answers to these questions and that you're happy before things move on :thumb: