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How can I get rid of the broodiness?
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Being around and looking after MrRiot's son is making it even worse not better. I know I only see him at weekends but even after trying all afternoon to get him off to sleep and the crying and tantrums it felt really rewarding sitting singing to him and rocking him to sleep. Yes after 6 months of doing it every weekend the novelty may wear off, but it felt really right . I know now is not the right time considering my health and my education and how early into our relationship we are so I really need to get rid of my broodiness. I can't get other cat - a cat and a dog are enough pets, but I keep finding myself wanting to make baby clothes (and it's a bit weird to be buying/making baby clothes with no child in sight - isn't it?), and my mum keeps talking about being a grandma (or granita as she puts it).
Urgh?!
What do I do?
Urgh?!
What do I do?
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That I could do, I guess I could always save some of the bigger stuff for when my friends have babies
I really do sympathise with you, I'm desperate for a baby but I'm putting it off so I can be in a better place when I have one. It is shitty, but you're doing the right thing for yourself and that's what matters. Just focus on looking after other peoples kids, more than anything my personal carer job keeps me going because I'm still fulfilling my desire to care for children but I'm also able to take them home at the end of the day and carry on looking after myself.
Yeah that doesn't really put me off - I've had hellfire's eldest throw up down my cleavage and my hair, bodily fluids really don't phase me, the sleepless nights would be the only killer I think, I can deal with tantrums (day after day I'm sure they wear you down though). I just need to get better because right now I'd be giving birth to a child addicted to painkillers before it's even born, I'm just not willing to put anyone through that!
I wouldn't be looking to have a child for another 18 months or more, but that doesn't seem that long. I'd kind of like to think about how I'd do things and such in advance but I think people would just think I'm going a bit cuckoo.
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So many people get broody anytime a cute gorgeous cuddly baby is in sight. I know I do! :yes:
There’s been such great advice already.
It must be hard. But it does sounds like you’re aware of the main reasons as to why now isn’t the best time. Being the best you is what’s most important before making any ‘life changing’ decisions.
Have you tried using distraction target? Maybe every time the broodiness pops into your head you could try replace it with your distractions target, something that makes you super happy! On the plus side you can enjoy being with your friends babies.
Hope this helped!