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What annoys you about other people’s relationships?
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Hi everyone, I’ve been quite busy working on the new benefits content for TheSite (which should be up this month), and now that’s done I’m going to be around the sex & relationships section of the boards a lot more.
I was with some friends at the weekend and one was complaining (to put it politely!) about when couples talk about the other one all the time as if they’re the only person in the world. And we got chatting about what annoys us all about other people’s relationships. It was interesting (funny too
), so I wanted to carry on here. What really annoys you about the way other people act in relationships?
I was with some friends at the weekend and one was complaining (to put it politely!) about when couples talk about the other one all the time as if they’re the only person in the world. And we got chatting about what annoys us all about other people’s relationships. It was interesting (funny too
), so I wanted to carry on here. What really annoys you about the way other people act in relationships? 0
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I don't know if this counts, but I hate it when a friend gets a boyfriend and she's like 'oh, bye friends, now I'll act like you never existed in my world'.
Also not being able to see their downsides because theyre so in love and 'are nice most of the time'
Yeah this, all my friends seem to do this. I give up bothering anymore, I've made new friends - they'll have no one when its over.
Quite.
Tbh, I don't mind people gushing, although it does make me jealous. I do mind seriously overt PDAs and I do mind being ignored when I'm out with one and they're talking to the other the whole time.
Do you think this is a stage most couples go through at the beginning? Would you be different in that situation?
And for you, does it depend on your relationship situation whether you find it annoying or not?
Miss_Riot, it sounds like you've gone through having to try and tell a friend that their relationship isn't right for them the way it is, and finding that they weren't ready to really hear you.
It can be that trying and then stepping back if it doesn't work is all you can do. Sometimes you can sow the seed of a realisation that they will come to over time if their relationship doesn't improve.
I know it's difficult, but would you say it was worth trying even though it didn't seem to work at the time?
After a few things that were said / happened, I was really concerned this would happen to me. Thankfully, after a discussion with a few people and doing some thinking, I'd decided that this relationship wasn't for me. After what other people said to me, it sounds like the sensible decision.
People who just go on and on all the time that they're with someone. If they say it in passing, fine. But it does get annoying after a while when that's all they talk about.
It's good to hear that input from friends can be really positive and help you to see that a situation isn't right for you. Maybe whether it works or not depends on how open you are to hearing it?
In some cases, other people’s relationships can be annoying because their behaviour directly affects you. For example, it can be really annoying if you have a friend that you enjoy spending time with, and suddenly they seem to want to spend all their time with their boyfriend/girlfriend.
In other cases, other people’s relationships can be annoying because what you see of them can feeling like rubbing your face in what you don’t have. Sometimes what annoys us can be because of what we envy in other people’s relationships.
Relationships vary a lot, and how we see other people’s relationships can teach us a lot about what we want out of life. For example, seeing a lot of public affection from a couple for example can make it appear that they have a closeness and intimacy that we might feel that we’re missing. We often don’t know what’s happening the rest of the time though, and there might be a lot of the relationship that isn’t so appealing!
So next time a couple annoys you, have a think about why in particular they annoy you. That’s not to say that you’re wrong to be annoyed – they might be a very annoying couple! And you’re entitled to your feelings. But there’s never any harm in understanding your own feelings further.