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Depressed after miscarriage :(
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Hey!
Everything has been fine with me until a few months ago; I had a miscarriage. Since then my whole life has just gotten worse again.
I've became so down and depressed again and I just cannot cope. My boyfriend just doesn't seem to be bothered by it and no-one seems to be able to say anything to make me feel better.
This last week has been really hard, my doctors stop my citalopram and I've just hit rock bottom.
I just need some help; I'm currently sitting here with cuts up my arms and I've just taken 4 cocodamol (8/500mg) and now I'm regretting it, I just need a bit of help.
Thanks for reading my rant
Ally
Everything has been fine with me until a few months ago; I had a miscarriage. Since then my whole life has just gotten worse again.
I've became so down and depressed again and I just cannot cope. My boyfriend just doesn't seem to be bothered by it and no-one seems to be able to say anything to make me feel better.
This last week has been really hard, my doctors stop my citalopram and I've just hit rock bottom.
I just need some help; I'm currently sitting here with cuts up my arms and I've just taken 4 cocodamol (8/500mg) and now I'm regretting it, I just need a bit of help.
Thanks for reading my rant
Ally
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Well done for opening up about how things are for you. We are here for you.
This article has some information on miscarriage and how to deal with the emotions that come with it. Your not alone.
Sometimes people react to things differently, your boyfriend may not know how to react. Is he there for you though, like if you need to talk to him?
I am sorry that your doctor took you off your medication, why did they do that?
I think for the practical advice is to contact somebody and get yourself checked out at hospital for the self harm and taking the tablets. I know it's a difficult step to take but we are here if you want to chat about anything.
This article has some info about going to the hospital about self harm it could help you feel less alone and worried.
Also take care of the wounds as well, like keep them clean and covered up if they need to be covered.
Are you on your own atm? or is there somebody with you, or somebody who can come and be with you?
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I'm so sorry to hear you've had a miscarriage. It's an awful thing and I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
The way you're feeling is normal. Everyone reacts in their own way to a miscarriage and there is definitely no right or wrong way to feel, any feelings you experience are normal.
Can I ask why your doctor made the decision to take you off citalopram? Did you come off this gradually and slowly, or did you just stop taking them all together?
You say you're regretting what you've just done, do you feel able to present yourself at a&e?
Have you had much support whilst trying to cope with your miscarriage?
Do keep posting, I'm sending hugs *hug*
Thanks for replying. I'm in the process of being referred for counselling, it's just taking forever. I will give those pages a read tho!
They took me of citalopram coz I'm having stomach problems atm and they can't figure out what it is that's causing it "/
I'm on my own now, and I've just turned my phone off, the thought of speaking/seeing people just makes me panic. I know I should go to get checked out I'm just terrified. My boyfriends mum lives over the road so she could come to me of I need her. I just know she will be mad at me, she made me promise I wouldn't do anything stupid.
Ally xox
No They just took me off citalopram altogether, I was on 30mg.
And no I don't think I could go to a&e, just the thought of if gives me a panic attack! I could get my boyfriends mum to come around, but even that scares me
I just have no idea what to do with myself
Ally xox
I think they should of gradually taken you off the tablets but I understand that they prob have to be safe if your having stomach troubles atm, then they prob want to be on the safe side by taking you off the meds.
Sorry that you feel that way with regards to speaking to somebody and seeing somebody. I do think you should get checked out though.
It's good that your boyfriends mum can come with you if you need her to, the fact that she made you promise not to do anything doesn't sound very supportive though. Self harm is an addiction and recovery is hard, and there will be relapses it doesn't mean you have failed it just means your struggling. You shouldn't of had to promise to not do anything, that isn't fair on you. *hugs*
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I think I will give myself a while to calm down and then ask her to come around, I am just terrified coz I know she will be mad at me.
I think calming yourself down and asking her to come around is a good idea, I know it's scary but you need to get yourself safe and where somebody can help you. I also want to say you should be really proud of yourself for doing this and taking this step. She will recognise that you are trying to help yourself by going to hospital, even if she is angry at you it will only be cos she does care about you. I know it wasn't fair for her to make you promise to not do anything but it sounds like she does care about you.
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I just wanted to pop in and offer another source of support. There have been several miscarriages and stillbirths in my family, and my Mum got involved with a charity called SANDS, who were set up to support parents whose babies had died before, during or shortly after birth. They've got telephone and email helplines, and are staffed by people who have gone through similar experiences and lost a baby. Here is their website: http://www.uk-sands.org/support/how-we-offer-support
Thanks for that website I will give it a look.
And I know I'm not sure how to tell her what I've done tho, it's hard to tell anyone especially when I know how disappointed she will be with me.
Ally xox
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Thanks Ally xox
I hope your okay x
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
Ally xox
" So I say thank you for the music, the songs I'm singing, thanks for all the joy they're bringing, who can live without it, I ask in all honestly what would life be? Without a song or a dance, what are we? So I say thank you for the music, for giving it to me "
'' It's a beautiful day and I can't stop myself from smiling "
I just feel like I'm not in my own body, I feel like someone else! It's hard to explain, but I just want to run away! I feel like I don't deserve my life, if I've just ruined everyone else's.
Last night I had a panic attack and locked myself in the bathroom, I could hear voices telling me self harm and I stupidly listened to them. It's horrible I've woke up today unable to get out of bed. I just don't feel safe and feel like I can't trust anyone.
I just don't know what to do.
Ally xoxo
Boyfriends mum maybe? See if she fancys going out for a stroll to the shop and pick up some milk or something similar with you? Getting out and getting some fresh air can help get things reset in your mind sometimes.
I'm just finding it hard to do anything atm
I'm sorry to hear that going out didn't help yesterday. It sounds like you were in a really low place, which is totally understandable given what you've been through. Did you try the place that purple_roo suggested, SANDS? Sometimes being able to talk to someone one to one can really help.
How are you feeling today?
I'm feeling even worse today, going to get my arm looked at in a bit, I think it's got infected.
I'm just not sure what's got me feeling so low, I just can't be bothered I just want to sleep forever
Ally xoxo