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Reena
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Can someone please tell me what pull drugs have?
I really want to understand why my little brother can't give them up?
I know it must be hard. That their addictive. But he's using more dangerous ones now.
Do we really have to stand by until he hits rock bottom?
We try to talk to him, we helped him find help when he said he wanted it, I just don't know what to do anymore. I've lost my little brother, I feel so useless. :banghead:
I really want to understand why my little brother can't give them up?
I know it must be hard. That their addictive. But he's using more dangerous ones now.
Do we really have to stand by until he hits rock bottom?
We try to talk to him, we helped him find help when he said he wanted it, I just don't know what to do anymore. I've lost my little brother, I feel so useless. :banghead:
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As for the appeal of drugs, sometimes, and I am ashamed to say this after everything my step-brother has been through, I take drugs when I really want to escape from whatever emotions I am feeling. I've been through a lot of shit and sometimes I just want to feel something different for a while. But other than benzos I only very ocassionally take drugs.
There's one particular drug called Meow (mephedrone) which I've learnt I shouldn't take because I did become very addicted to it for a few months, spending almost my entire university fund on it. However my supply was cut off, as the people I knew who did it got caught up with by the police. That was one drug I did take for similar reasons RG said, when I was down it made me up... and when I was up it made me very up.
I think once you're caught up in addiction, it's no longer about having fun. It's about keeping up the level you're on, because you're worried about crashing, which means you take more and more. You become comfortable with it, it becomes your life.
As horrible as it sounds, you can't help someone who doesn't want help yet. All you can do is make sure he know's helps there if he wants it. One day, he probably will go for help, but you can't force him. It wont do anyone any good *hug*
People use drugs for varying reasons... escapism, spiritual practice, addiction, to enhance experiences, to socialise ect....
I've used Class A (for the non-Brits, these carry heavier sentences and are considered hard) drugs out of curiousity, at raves to make for a more intense experience, or because I used to enjoy tripping.
In the UK at least... there are drugs considered "hard" by the people who govern us/the barbarians up top which are leas harmful than alcohol.
Your step-brother's story makes me hopeful, I'm really happy for him.
Is it bad we're wishing he would hit rock bottom? I'm almost crying just thinking about it. My dad just asked him what he wants for his funeral.
Meow is what he's on. It started with weed. I wish I knew why he started, he said back when he was on weed it was to calm him down cause of his ADD. Thank you for your input. xx
We tried ultimatums, they don't seem to have any effect on him.
We can't seem to get a straight answer why he started, he usually avoids the question and when he doesn't the story always seems to change.
Cheers for the reply.
K thanks xx
Please be careful. Thank you for the thread. xx
It's really addictive. But the police are cutting down on it quite a lot at the moment, because there's been an increase of teenagers taking it.
That makes me feel better, but the police need to do more. The dealers have been bragging to my sister that they supply him. It makes me so angry. :mad:
That said, it's equally easy to just say you're addicted, and then transfer your problems to the addiction. "i'm an addict, it's not my fault".
The first step is to realise the situation you're in, and then the possible consequences.
Well, that is an addiction. There are sometimes similarities as to why people get addicted. xx
does he have any nursing support or anything for the ADD? if it really is/was a factor in his drug use then he should be able to get help to control the symptoms better. he should be able to access a specialist ADHD/ADD team, if he doesn't already.
He use to when he was a kid. He had all kinds of help. A nurse came out to see him every few weeks, counselors -even family counselling so everyone could understand what he was feeling. Different medication like Ritalin, but he always got drowsy and would fall asleep in class.
He hasn't had anything like that for years, he was actually getting better the older he got. Then all of a sudden he got into drugs. We think it was more peer pressure than anything else, but we don't know for sure.
Sorry don't have any advice on drugs never took any. see you :wave:
Don't try and force him out of it, it won't work. He's experiencing something, hopefully he'll realise himself when/if it's becoming a problem, then you can help and support him.
I think my brother is still using, but he seems to be trying harder to make up for stuff in the past.
I hope he is trying to get off them but I'm not sure if this is the case. All I know is, that his attitude has got better, even at work my uncle is really pleased with him and says he may get a bonus. I'm finding it easier to talk with him again, like when we were kids and we could joke around and talk about silly stuff. -we weren't able to do that for a long time, we would hardly see him.
Well it seems like it's getting better.