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Well it's been a while since I've been on here, can still recognise some of the old faces, y'all probably not remember me though
Anyways I'm kinda at a crossroads in my life, in the last month I've lost my job and split up with my girlfriend of 5 years
I've kinda gone from having it all to having bugger all and I'm not sure what lies ahead, the girlfriend thing hadn't been the best for a while but when she dropped the bombshell that she didn't love me anymore it kinda hit hard, to be honest I'm kinda dealing quite wel with it, ( well I think I am anyway) she blames everything on herself and feels awful for doing this to me cause she never wanted to hurt me but I don't hold any grudges towards her because I still love her, I'm not gonna be the one that keeps saying we should keep trying because we have for a while and it's not worked, we're still talking and on good terms so I'd rather just leave it at that
I came here looking for advice and also just too vent cause I know how good this community is for giving help, for the first time in a long while I have no ties to me really (apart from my dog lol), I don't really know what to do with myself, I spent my new year by myself pretty much, tbh I wanted to be alone cause I knew I wouldn't be much craic but also to try and figure out what to do now but I can't think of anything I want to do with my life, I live away in the sticks so job opportunitys are pretty limited and I don't have any decent qualies to get a decent paid job
I'm blabbering on now lol, like I said was just a good ol vent I needed
Cheers for reading guys
Anyways I'm kinda at a crossroads in my life, in the last month I've lost my job and split up with my girlfriend of 5 years
I've kinda gone from having it all to having bugger all and I'm not sure what lies ahead, the girlfriend thing hadn't been the best for a while but when she dropped the bombshell that she didn't love me anymore it kinda hit hard, to be honest I'm kinda dealing quite wel with it, ( well I think I am anyway) she blames everything on herself and feels awful for doing this to me cause she never wanted to hurt me but I don't hold any grudges towards her because I still love her, I'm not gonna be the one that keeps saying we should keep trying because we have for a while and it's not worked, we're still talking and on good terms so I'd rather just leave it at that
I came here looking for advice and also just too vent cause I know how good this community is for giving help, for the first time in a long while I have no ties to me really (apart from my dog lol), I don't really know what to do with myself, I spent my new year by myself pretty much, tbh I wanted to be alone cause I knew I wouldn't be much craic but also to try and figure out what to do now but I can't think of anything I want to do with my life, I live away in the sticks so job opportunitys are pretty limited and I don't have any decent qualies to get a decent paid job
I'm blabbering on now lol, like I said was just a good ol vent I needed
Cheers for reading guys
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So sorry to hear you are going through a break up, and at the same time losing your job *hug*
You seem to have a good/rational attitude towards this break up - and not holding onto any grudges is positive so far. Have a look at our articles that can help on Getting over it and accepting it's over.
It's understandable to feel slightly lost about where you life is going after what you are going through. From what you say it seems hard to find a job where you live - have a look at steps towards getting a new job. Perhaps a new exciting experience with new people (who do not know you with your girlfriend) could be just what you need
Feel free to keep venting
I hope you are okay. Not sure what to say. I hope things get better soon for you though.
Randomgirl, I remember ya now, how have ya been?
Yeah was quite surprised at the amount of people I remembered, that's good working for youthnet, I'll be fine I'm sure, every cloud an all that, take care
Like you say it's a New year, therefore new experiences could help - how about volunteering while you look for a job? It's a great way to keep busy and meet people who have similar interests! Have a look at our site do-it.org which has all kinds of opportunities
If it really is a new start you want, you could look at moving somewhere new? Maybe to a larger town or a city? Look for a new job/career path, work your way up? You could meet people through that, or try gumtree for house sharing possibly?