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Confused About Feelings ..
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I've been with my current boyfriend for about 5 years now, but now I don't feel the same about him. My love for him just isn't like it used to be - yet I don't want to break up with him.
However, in a way I do want to break up as I have feelings for someone else. He told me he liked me a few weeks ago, but he felt bad for telling me as he knew that I was with someone else. But I don't think he remembers telling me because he was drunk.
Advice anyone? Thanks in advance.
However, in a way I do want to break up as I have feelings for someone else. He told me he liked me a few weeks ago, but he felt bad for telling me as he knew that I was with someone else. But I don't think he remembers telling me because he was drunk.
Advice anyone? Thanks in advance.
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2) In my opinion, every person in a relationship that goes on for some time will be interested in someone else at some point. Even if it's just infatuation. It is up to you if you pursue those feelings with the new person, or you make a rational (with elimination of emotion) decision and say to yourself you will steer clear of this person, in person and in thought, for the sake of your relationship.
3) Someone drunkenly told you he has feelings for you (which he might not even remember) and you talk about leaving someone you actually do not want to leave. Is this smart?
4) There is no 4) because I need to go to the bathroom like super urgent.
It sucks being confused though, sometimes it's hard to pinpoint how you really feel but take your time, there's no big rush and it might help to find some time to talk to your partner about how you feel.
This article on successful monogomy has some really good insights into what makes things last and it might be worth a read: http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/couples/lifeasacouple/successfulmonogamy
There's also the idea of 'emotional affairs' where you have strong feelings for someone else. It can often be that they fill a gap that's lacking in your current relationship or it may be something more but it can be really confusing. Have a read and see if any of this sounds familiar: http://www.thesite.org/thesite.org/sexandrelationships/couples/relationshipissues/emotionalaffairs
Are you and your boyfriend good at making quality time for each other? It may be that you both need to put a bit of effort in to shake things up a bit? If you're looking for some expert relationship advice don't forget you can also submit a question to askTheSite in confidence.
I hope some of this is helpful, let us know how things are going and good luck
rather than bottling your emotions inside as that way
your being honest and open to him and not supressing your emotions.:thumb: