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Being liked/loved by others
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Hi,
Just wanted to discuss this really. Most people want this I think, but what effects does it have on us ?
How important is it to be liked/loved by friends and partners ?
It's something I'm not sure of. I think it's fine to want to be liked by others and make friends, but maybe you shouldn't worry too much if someone doesn't like you.
But with people being social animals just how important are relationships and being liked/loved for us ?
Is it necessary for our self esteem/confidence to thrive ?
Just something I wanted to raise and get feedback on.
Just wanted to discuss this really. Most people want this I think, but what effects does it have on us ?
How important is it to be liked/loved by friends and partners ?
It's something I'm not sure of. I think it's fine to want to be liked by others and make friends, but maybe you shouldn't worry too much if someone doesn't like you.
But with people being social animals just how important are relationships and being liked/loved for us ?
Is it necessary for our self esteem/confidence to thrive ?
Just something I wanted to raise and get feedback on.
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Some people are perfetly content to live solitary lives but they are a minority.
I don't really care for people who don't like me, it's their right to make that decision. I think it's more important to focus on what we have and on who loves us. Life's too short to spend energy on people not liking us.
I think that self-esteem is a personal thing, something we control ourselves and have responsibility for. The only person you are with 24/7 is yourself, so you may as well like yourself and be friendly towards yourself.
That said, it's all easier said than done... I was bullied a lot in school, as were many people on the site and self-esteem is something which takes a lot of love to nurture, but I don't think it's something that comes from other people, but ourselves.
Sometimes we have friends, lovers and families who show us compassion and help us, but it's up to us to choose whether or not to use the gifts they give us and to create a more positive world for ourselves.
I haven't read it yet, but want to acquire a copy.
I think we want to make friends and have lovers, but I guess the starting point is with ourselves - as you say we spend the most time with ourselves.
So I guess it's best to like/love ourselves and if other people do it's a bonus and good for us, but if someone doesn't like/love us we can survive it if we like/love ourselves.
It's a tricky one and I don't fully know.
Deing disliked by those people would be a bit of a bad sign.
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