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Right boyfriend has just phoned me and said he wants to give me anal
1st things 1st does it hurt and if so whats the pain rating i wanna do it but im not one for pain lol
1st things 1st does it hurt and if so whats the pain rating i wanna do it but im not one for pain lol
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First thing: lube.
Second thing: it hurts if you don't do it right.
If you aren't relaxed, it will hurt. If you don't want to do it, you won't be relaxed and it will hurt. The bigger he is, the more lube you need. Lube him *and you*. Use fingers first so you can get used to the sensation, because it's...odd. Best way I've found for the first time is with you lying on your back with your bum on some pillows so it's raised a bit. Slowly and gently at first. He can start going faster if/when you're comfortable with him doing so. Have I mentioned the lube? Because it's important. There's no such thing as too much lube for this. If you're not sure you've got enough, use more.
Also it's good to realise that you might not get much from it, so don't feel bad if you want to use a vibe on yourself at the same time. Anal on its own does nothing for me at all, it just feels like I'm pooping backwards, so I tend to get my bullet out at the same time so it's enjoyable for everyone.
thanks for the advice just going to be really nervous lol
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Maybe start with letting him play round the area first
Yeah, seriously. It's not a sensation that you just instantly are ok with, and done wrong it can really hurt and (from experience) you do not want swelling in that area - it makes life a lot more difficult for a good few weeks.