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First time violence
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Hi all.
Had a pretty shite night last night, slept on the sofa etc, separate rooms until the morning etc.
A little back story, me and my girlfriend moved in together recently and it really hasn't gone according to plan! Anyway, last night me and my girlfriend had a fight and she flipped. Threw a glass at a wall, hit into me a few times, nothing to harsh but it was more the principle then the action. Now it's the morning after and I am honestly confused what to do.
On one hand, if this is a one time thing, she says it's because I frustrated her so much that she couldn't get a word in edge ways, apparently "I am good with my words" so it was the only way for me to listen? then if that's the case then maybe I am happy to see how it goes and put it down to the fact we need to calm down if we argue. But on the other hand do I honestly want to go through this again? I have grown up with this violence most of my life and she knows this, violent/drinking Dad, Sister etc.
So right now I am at a crossroads, to stay or go? we are going abroad in 2 weeks and considering all the stress of late, issues from both sides am I kidding myself for thinking that a break could do us good? and then maybe once back, we both go and see someone together? she said she will go get help if I stay... but it still brings me back, that I am pee'd off right now that she acted this way, violence is never the answer yet she decided to go down the road.
It is also quite annoys me we had her two girly friends outside our house last night too, because she rang them as I was asleep etc, fair enough but these two always are putting there noses in and frankly that makes things worse!!!
Grrr, sorry but I think you can sense I am frustrated as I love her but right now I just need some direction if someone is willing to talk to me?
Thanks.
Warm Regards.
MOP.
Had a pretty shite night last night, slept on the sofa etc, separate rooms until the morning etc.
A little back story, me and my girlfriend moved in together recently and it really hasn't gone according to plan! Anyway, last night me and my girlfriend had a fight and she flipped. Threw a glass at a wall, hit into me a few times, nothing to harsh but it was more the principle then the action. Now it's the morning after and I am honestly confused what to do.
On one hand, if this is a one time thing, she says it's because I frustrated her so much that she couldn't get a word in edge ways, apparently "I am good with my words" so it was the only way for me to listen? then if that's the case then maybe I am happy to see how it goes and put it down to the fact we need to calm down if we argue. But on the other hand do I honestly want to go through this again? I have grown up with this violence most of my life and she knows this, violent/drinking Dad, Sister etc.
So right now I am at a crossroads, to stay or go? we are going abroad in 2 weeks and considering all the stress of late, issues from both sides am I kidding myself for thinking that a break could do us good? and then maybe once back, we both go and see someone together? she said she will go get help if I stay... but it still brings me back, that I am pee'd off right now that she acted this way, violence is never the answer yet she decided to go down the road.
It is also quite annoys me we had her two girly friends outside our house last night too, because she rang them as I was asleep etc, fair enough but these two always are putting there noses in and frankly that makes things worse!!!
Grrr, sorry but I think you can sense I am frustrated as I love her but right now I just need some direction if someone is willing to talk to me?
Thanks.
Warm Regards.
MOP.
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That's no excuse. And there's a more mature way of dealing with issues like this.
Tell them to butt out?
I agree with this. Violence is NEVER acceptable and chances are if it has happened once, it will more than likely happen again.
How do you feel?
Its the sort of choice only you can make. Do you think shes an abusive person.
We sat down last night and talked things through, I am willing to give her another chance. Were also booking with someone because as I say there are a few issues we would like to get aired out before we can concentrate on our future. I do love her so im willing if she, I and us work at it then to try.
I will probably sign out now but just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your advice and support. If anything does ever change though, it's nice to know I can turn to somewhere, not always easy to always do.
Thanks