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On Monday I had this conversation with one of my best Male friends and we talked for and somehow got onto the conversation of sexuality, me and him are both males and both straight. But after during this conversation we talked about males having sex, and then I said what would you do if a male offered to suck you off, and he said he would say yess because there are no consequences. I agreed with him and we talked more and more, now on Tuesday next week we are getting together to experiment, I will suck him and he will suck me...we are both pretty open minded but will this be wired after we do this, and will we even go through with it, and does this make us gay or curious...I am not looking forward to it, but I kinda want this to happen...I have never been attracted to a guy before and he assured me he hasn't either (But I kinda find him attractive)...we have also been joking at school about it even though no one knows what we are talking about, like Ill say come here and he will look at me and say "on Tuesday" in a dirty voice...also he likes to be near me and some times he will sit on me or like try to feel me up, do you think he is gay?
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Whatever is the case for either of you, seems quite quick for you two have been just chatting about this on Monday, and all of a sudden be planning to suck each other off?
Were you going soft when she wasnt stopping?
No form of sex is risk-free, look after your sexual health by using condoms (even for oral, you can get flavoured ones for the purpose).
It's not up to us to tell you if you're straight/gay/bi/whatever. That's for you to decide in your own time. Your sexual urges might change over time, that's also completely normal. You don't have to rush into labels it's ok to accept that actually sex and sexuality are bloody confusing!
I'd be more worried that you're being pushed into something that you don't want to do. If you're happy to blow him, and be blown by him, and you've thought through the consequences then go right ahead. If you're still at school you need to make sure you trust the boy not to tell everyone.
On the label thing. Why do you have to be gay, straight or bi? Why not just be yourself?
I don't class myself as either gay or bi, I fall in love with the person not the genitals. Their personality and their ability to treat me with respect and to love me back is far more important. Life is too complicated to restrict yourself by a title or label.
---Pansexuality (also referred to as pans), or omnisexuality is a sexual orientation, characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love, or sexual desire towards people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex---
and if anyone doesn't understand the difference between BI an Pansexual ---Pansexual more loving personalities, while bi is to have a fetish with the penis and love a women or the other way around
Pansexuality doesn't regard gender as a binary concept. That is to say, pansexuality recognises that there are more genders than simply male and female. Bisexuality holds to the gender binary.
There's not a great distinction in real terms but people who spend a lot of time with trans people or have had trans partners will usually define as pan rather than bi.