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Moving to new town alone - flatshare or get own place?
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Right, so i've been offered a pretty good job which i couldnt really refuse.
Its about an hour and a half away from where i live at the moment so i'll have to move down there and i dont know anyone in the new town. I've been used to living away from home thanks to my time at uni, but have been at home for about a year since i left uni so it does feel a little odd this time, knowing that this is kind of the "big move" away.
I can afford to get my own little flat and i would kind of prefer this. I've had the 4 years at uni living with people in houses and flats etc and all the ups and downs that includes and im feeling now that i would like to have my own flat and space.
Buuut i'm now thinking that i dont know anyone and there might be the possibility that i don't make social friends at work as im not sure who exactly i'll be working with, age etc
So its a tough one to weigh up. Get my own place means i have my own space and can do what i want. Getting a flatshare means i get to meet someone who i can hang around with, but they could turn out to be a dick.
Thoughts anyone? What have you done in similar situations?
Its about an hour and a half away from where i live at the moment so i'll have to move down there and i dont know anyone in the new town. I've been used to living away from home thanks to my time at uni, but have been at home for about a year since i left uni so it does feel a little odd this time, knowing that this is kind of the "big move" away.
I can afford to get my own little flat and i would kind of prefer this. I've had the 4 years at uni living with people in houses and flats etc and all the ups and downs that includes and im feeling now that i would like to have my own flat and space.
Buuut i'm now thinking that i dont know anyone and there might be the possibility that i don't make social friends at work as im not sure who exactly i'll be working with, age etc
So its a tough one to weigh up. Get my own place means i have my own space and can do what i want. Getting a flatshare means i get to meet someone who i can hang around with, but they could turn out to be a dick.
Thoughts anyone? What have you done in similar situations?
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Somewhere on your own will generally tie you into a much longer contract, whereas a houseshare you can often give a months notice on.
If you're the sort of person who will get up and go, living alone might be OK. If you know that you'll drag yourself out to clubs and groups then living alone would be fine. But if you're the sort of person to have a pizza and slob in front of the telly after work, living alone would end up being quite isolating quite quickly.
I'd be more tempted to go for the house-share option, but see if you can get one on a short notice period. Then you have the flexibility if you end up hating it, but it means you won't be completely alone, coming home every night to an empty house in a strange town.
I've already had a look on meetup.com and there are quite a few social new in town groups which i might try out. See what they're like.
Hmmm its a tough one really. Need to really give it a think.
I'd look at it as flat sharing for 6months or so with the eventual plan to rent somewhere alone.
I think living on my own is going to work out fine - randomly I'm moving in right next to someone at work who also lives on their own. And lots of people at work live on their own too and love it. It's a pretty sociable place, plus am planning on joining the gym and a couple of other groups. So we'll see how it goes! If I hate living on my own, I'll look at flat sharing in a few months time. But right now I know I want to give living on my own a go.
Firstly, congratulations on the job offer! This is great news for you but obviously leaves you in another dilemma; accommodation. You're not sure whether to live on your own or go into a house share.
As the other users have said, this is all about personal preference and weighing up the cons and pros of each. Only you will really know what kind of place you want to live in so it's important for you to think about this and maybe jot some ideas down.
You could also try viewing a few places in the area near to work to get a feel of the place and maybe talk to the current tenants.
Another option is to live in a block of residential flats. This way you get your own space but there are still people around and your neighbours may turn into interesting friends.
You can also do as Scary Monster says and live in a house share for a while to see how it goes. If it's not working you can then find your own place. This keeps all the options open.
If you do find yourself living on your own at some point and just feeling a bit lonely there are some great ways to make friends. Hopefully, you'll meet people through work. You can also join clubs or groups in the local area, and you'll also get to do an activity that you enjoy!
Another great way to meet people is by volunteering. You'll meet lots of like minded interesting people and do your bit for the local community too.
Hopefully you'll find the right place to live soon but good luck with the new job.