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10 Reasons not have kids...
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I just wondered what people's views on the above were. I am 22 and at the moment really don't want kids and after reading the above, can't see myself changing my mind like everyone tells me I will when I get older!
I just wondered what people's views on the above were. I am 22 and at the moment really don't want kids and after reading the above, can't see myself changing my mind like everyone tells me I will when I get older!
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Am I lucky or something then? I have friends with children. They will sometimes talk about their children - but not that often.
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When any of those happen, nothing else matters in life. Nothing.
As for losing your weekend, I do what I've always done at a weekend- potter round town, drink coffee and have a wine at home. I just do it with a small shouty child in tow.
Theres lots of things i miss about my freedom
I do miss things, and there are a lot of sacrifices, but I think she's worth it. I'd rather have a daughter and few nights out than total freedom, more cash and no daughter. I hope that I continue to feel that as she gets older and things get harder.
I don't know how anyone copes with having two in a short period of time, I really admire anyone who does that without losing all their marbles. We're "lucky" in that baby doesn't give us enough time to ourselves for a second baby to be an issue
I miss sleep more than anything though...
I think having two quickly must be really hard. Kids can be very tiring at the best of times and I feel for you there.
However, personally, I don't miss those freedom because I know that I will get them back when the kids leave home. I also know that my life will feel emptier when they do leave.
I really appreciate what my kids have given me, how they have helped me grow as a person, have given me a completely different perspective on life. I've watching them grow and develop into individuals and watched my eldest grow into a young man. He's older now than many people on this site :eek:
Not minute of one day in those 17 years have I regretted having him. Sure there's been heartache at times but as Arctic Roll says, for all that the joys far, far outweigh any difficulties.
omg, i could just cry for one. Even a weekend off.
I used to get time off when i had one kid. When youve got 3, the offers really dry up
Maybe I'm selfish, but I don't like the idea of wrecking my body, getting no sleep, having no money or freedom and my whole live revolving around someone else. I might change in time - I probably just need to do everything I want while I'm in my 20s, and hopefully that way I won't regret losing my freedom if I ever have kids.
I honestly don't know how you do it. I'd be frazzled. We're planning at least a 3 year gap (much to grandparent's horror). A couple of my baby group friends with littlies the same age as Superbaby have just announced their pregnancies and the idea of me being upduffed again so soon makes me feel a bit :shocking:
I think, in my brief experience, that kids are the hardest but also the best thing I can imagine. I'm not the same person I was before her, and I actually (usually) quite like the person she's made me.
I think this is why grandparents are so important and I have two really supportive sets.
Sure we haven't had a holiday away, but have had the odd weekend.
I plan on doing what my parents did and touring the globe when the kids are older and I will appreciate the world more anyway... I'd have only wasted those holidays in my youth and not appreciate the beauty and sights...
I also have to say that having the gap which we do I really appreciate the fact that they grow up so fast, childhood is gone so fast so I'm enjoying making the most of it whilst I can. This is the third time that I've been able to discover the wide world through a child's eyes and it truly is a wonderous place...
I know its tough, but its the greatest privilege which not everyone gets.
I'm a new parent and it's been a tough ride so far and I'm exhausted almost every day. However, when baby smiles I'm the happiest person in the world.
It's been two years since I got to know my stepdaughter for the first time and that's when I started realising that despite everything, it's pretty magical to see a kid experiencing something "mundane" for the first time or achieving something on their own.
I know that I would get very bored having all the extra income and doing the exact same things year after year. Holidays are fun but I think I'd get excruciatingly bored of a lot of things if I was still living my childfree life in another 20 years.
well I DID lose my marbles lol. me and my partner ended up splitting up for a short while and i had to go on antipsychotics, but its all good and im off them now, but tbh, ive never really been the same since.
There are pros and cons of course. My two youngest are sooooo close, theyre like twins and love each other to bits, but its been a really hard slog. I am starting to see the benefits now theyre nearly 3 and nearly 4, but an unplanned/unwanted Pregnancy when youre already looking after a baby is really tough, and that first year - well i wouldnt wish it on anyone. My first child had a lot of behavioural problems because hes ASD, but i didnt know it at the time, just thought i was a really shit parent, but even that wasnt as hard as having two close together, because at least when he was being awful, i only had to concentrate on him.
I actually think people have a really romantic view of having a little baby, a little child, when actually articals like the one above are quite refreshing and make me laugh, because of course there are wonderful aspects to having children and im so happy that ALL of them are in the world, but really its fucking relentless to be a stay at home parent of several, and i often wonder if im really cut out for it.
I think id be a great grandparent. All the love and all the good bits, but you get to give them back!
We're not all that bad, honest!
A relative of mine has quads. They're little terrors when together, apparently.
A friend said this. She said that she gets bored mentally - her children are 5, 4, 2 and 1 and that she just wants to have a meaningful conversation with someone.