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Councelling or give up?
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Hey guys,
My teacher is saying that i should have family councelling, involving my parents which scares the hell outta me cos they will find out and ill be accused of shit stirring or bitching about them. and they will deny pretty much everything.
Or i could do individual councelling just for me and then possibly group councelling, but right now it can not go to that. just individual. Is it possible for me to have councelling with out my parents knowing as im under 16? only by less than a month tho.
the only other option is that i give up and go my own way away from my family and dont let it affect me anymore. i cant leave my family. i cant just forget about them.
I guess im writing for some advice? if youve got any id apprietiate it. xx
My teacher is saying that i should have family councelling, involving my parents which scares the hell outta me cos they will find out and ill be accused of shit stirring or bitching about them. and they will deny pretty much everything.
Or i could do individual councelling just for me and then possibly group councelling, but right now it can not go to that. just individual. Is it possible for me to have councelling with out my parents knowing as im under 16? only by less than a month tho.
the only other option is that i give up and go my own way away from my family and dont let it affect me anymore. i cant leave my family. i cant just forget about them.
I guess im writing for some advice? if youve got any id apprietiate it. xx
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aparently my mum turned around and admitted theres a problem.,
things may turn around... but it took me giving up after 3 years of fighting.
it may seems really ocnfusing, but it will come to you , x
she still hasnt admitted to me she knows theres a problem.. x
after your 16 im fairly sure it can be kept confidential, but dont trust that x
If there is a threat of severe harm to self or others they would have to disclose but will almost always disclose to someone else in the team and discuss it with you before telling anyone else.
Does that make sense?
I refused family therapy in the past, I just couldn't face it. Start out on your own and see how you get on, you can always move to family therapy later.
As someone else has said, councelling services are legally confidential unless you are in danger of immediate severe harm to yourself/others. This wouldnt be self harm, or suicidal feelingsbut for instance if you told them you were definatley going to kill yourself etc.
There are many services geared towards young people which you should be able to do without parents consent. You could go to your family doctor and ask them what is avaliable in your area? I know in my area in the UK there is a service as part of the 'mind' organization which is geared toward young people, they do group sessions and one to one and i found going there really brilliant (especially cuz around ages of 16 your too old for kids services and too young for adult so finding a teen service is best geared towards your needs.)
If in doubt about confidentiality, ask before you speak there is always childline / samaritans etc who you can call without it showing on your phone bill
good luck
xx