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What should i do, i like her sister..
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Help i have been seeing this girl who over the months i developed feelings for, she knew i liked her and she told me we would play it by ear but still haven't been in a relationship, met loads of times since September last year, lets call her Lisa. I went out with Lisa last saturday and she ran away when i was trying some clothes on, i have been thinking about her since and everyones advice is to leave it. To make matters more difficult i have seen her sister with them both together 3 weeks ago and she is very attractive, and nicer personality (at least first impressions), i dont know what to do. I still have feelings for Lisa, and i dont know how to play it. I feel really bad about Lisa running away on our meet up, and she hasn't text me back or called me, and even deleted me on facebook. I either want to send Lisa a text saying can't we be friends.. but then i dont want to complicate things with her if i can get with her sister, but i dont want to mess the sister around, becuase i feel like i need somethign to hapen soon, i feel very needy if that makes sense... please someone, you advice please
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I would suggest sorting things out with Lisa first before you try anything with the sister, that way at least it wont seem like you are going behind her back
Theyre sisters. Youll tear the family apart.
Find someone else.
U are friends with lisa's sister anyway? u hve been out with lisa's sister and had your arm round her right?
Well i am guessing Lisa 's sister may have told lisa about u and with sibling rivalry Lisa could have tried to get u all for herself and when u fell hook line and sinker for her she does not want u anymore, just ignore her and get on with her sister x
It is understandable that you feel angry and frustrated by what Lisa did last week. It is really insensitive of her to have walked out on you without a word and is now ignoring your messages. It's courageous of you to have texted her though. Lexi99 is right, this needs to be sorted so you can get some kind some closure, and before anything can happen with her sister.
From what i understand you really liked Lisa. Dealing with unrequited feelings is hard and can leave you confused and upset;
If you feel you can get over Lisa, this is good news. However you might need to think about whether the feelings you have for her sister are real? You have been through a lot with lisa and it is only natural to feel the need to rebound - however try not to use her sister in this way, it will only hurt you further. If you think you truly like her, then perhaps you could get to know her better first and take it from there?
Don't hesitate to keep posting and let us know how you get on *hug*