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Hooking up with the ex
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Ok, so tomorrow I'm meeting up with my ex-boyfriend for the first time in over a year. We split, amicably, because he wasn't working, was depressed, couldn't deal with a relationship etc. I was hurt at the time because I felt he didn't really make much effort, but all in all, we parted with no real bad feelings.
So, a couple of months ago, I randomly text him. He's been working abroad hence why we're only meeting now. Our texts and emails have become quite risque over the last few weeks and I'm fully expecting that we will have sex tomorrow. The thing is that we were texting today and it was a bit smutty and I said, half jokingly, that conversation would also be required - i.e. I wasn't going to meet him and jump straight on him. So he replied and said that it was true, but it was worth remembering that we were meeting up for a drink, a laugh and possibly some fun rather than a 'date' and that he wasn't expecting anything to happen.
So, now I don't know how I feel. I've enjoyed the thrill of our texts and I want to sleep with him, although I'll admit that I was sort of hoping that it might be the start of re-kindling our relationship. He works abroad a lot so it would be very different as to how it was before. I don't just want to be someone that when he pops home he screws, although I suppose I haven't helped that with the texts. Should I just go tomorrow and see what happens or am I setting myself to get hurt again?
GB xx
So, a couple of months ago, I randomly text him. He's been working abroad hence why we're only meeting now. Our texts and emails have become quite risque over the last few weeks and I'm fully expecting that we will have sex tomorrow. The thing is that we were texting today and it was a bit smutty and I said, half jokingly, that conversation would also be required - i.e. I wasn't going to meet him and jump straight on him. So he replied and said that it was true, but it was worth remembering that we were meeting up for a drink, a laugh and possibly some fun rather than a 'date' and that he wasn't expecting anything to happen.
So, now I don't know how I feel. I've enjoyed the thrill of our texts and I want to sleep with him, although I'll admit that I was sort of hoping that it might be the start of re-kindling our relationship. He works abroad a lot so it would be very different as to how it was before. I don't just want to be someone that when he pops home he screws, although I suppose I haven't helped that with the texts. Should I just go tomorrow and see what happens or am I setting myself to get hurt again?
GB xx
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You split because he was't making an effort (ok it may have been because of other reasons but still)
You're only talking now because you texted him, not the other way around. If you hadn't he probably wouldnt have got in touch with you
He said himself its for 'fun' rather than a date.
If you think you can handle this not going further than tomorrow then go for it but just dont get your hopes up too high that he'll be what you want him to be. Sorry to be harsh but i've been in this situtaion before, thinking that he might have changed or want me now but it just ended up same as before.
Hope it goes well whatever you do
I feel sorry for the girl he is "kind of seeing" bet she doesn't know he's such an ass! xxx