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Telling parents how we met (online dating)
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Hello,
I had a go with online dating and got talking to a lad who I seemed to 'click' with. We messaged for a couple of months then met up for a date. It went really well and we had the second date bowling and a meal yesterday. He has asked me what I want to do on the 3rd date, so im getting the feeling something is going to come out of it (a relationship hopefully) and am thinking about telling my parents.
I don't live at home, however I am always in touch and they know what im doing and who im going with etc. They know I only know people from work at the moment as I have recently moved to a new city for a job.
Im thinking of just telling them the truth, but my mum worries so much about meeting people online etc, and ive been telling her im out with people from work when im on a date with him. So I feel guilty for lying.
Anyone been in a similar situation, what do you recommend?
Thanks
I had a go with online dating and got talking to a lad who I seemed to 'click' with. We messaged for a couple of months then met up for a date. It went really well and we had the second date bowling and a meal yesterday. He has asked me what I want to do on the 3rd date, so im getting the feeling something is going to come out of it (a relationship hopefully) and am thinking about telling my parents.
I don't live at home, however I am always in touch and they know what im doing and who im going with etc. They know I only know people from work at the moment as I have recently moved to a new city for a job.
Im thinking of just telling them the truth, but my mum worries so much about meeting people online etc, and ive been telling her im out with people from work when im on a date with him. So I feel guilty for lying.
Anyone been in a similar situation, what do you recommend?
Thanks
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Lately I've been trying to sort of sensitize my parents to the idea (I'm 17). There are plenty of people on the internet I plan on meeting in the near future (Not necessarily for dating) but the idea seems so foreign and "dangerous" to them. I would just try to present it to your parents as something normal. Let them know that it's how a lot of people our age do things, because it is!
I smell a loop-hole!
If they aren't people who would understand, just be creative. We have an official story- met at a Uni open day and stayed in touch by email- and we have the real story.
TBH I think people are generally far more accepting of the internet as a place to meet people than they were ten years ago when I met my wife. Try telling them the truth and see what happens. I don't think that there's any stigma involved any more, given that even the Guardian newspaper has an online dating agency.
Parents will worry regardless of what u are doing.
What i will say thou is u should not have lied about going on a date what if he had turned out to be a bloody weirdo and u had disapeared without trace?? They would just think u had been out with friends?? People must know where u are going when u do meet a stranger online. Thats why parents worry!!!! x:banghead:
How exciting that things are going well for you and this lad you met online
It can be very tough to introduce new people to your parents, let alone someone they might not approve of simply because of the way you met. As Clan Mother Red suggested, it could be a good idea to introduce him first (as a friend or bf) before you tell them how you met?
Seems like you have a good relationship with your parents, so perhaps being honest is the best policy. You could make sure you mention what safety precautions you took and how safe you were when you met him offline. Perhaps you had a friend with you or you made sure it was in public and that people knew where you were?
They might not like it at first, but they will eventually get used to the idea - and who knows, if you have a future with him you wouldn't want to always remember the made up story!
Hope it goes well, good luck :wave:
Now he doesn't have facebook anymore and was never an avid user so we never even became friends on there until much later but no one needs to know that. :thumb: