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New relationship...not enough sex? Opinions!
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Thanks for the advice guys, this problem has been solved.
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Once a week (or less) does sound less than normal early into a typical relationship though. I don't have a huge sex drive (can quite easily have a relationship without sex) but in the last relationship I was in we ended up having sex 2 or 3 times a week.
If you are complaining about lack of sex after going out for 7 weeks, remember that some people who do have rabbit like sex lives, have not even slept together after going out for a couple of months.
It's all relative. If you feel like you're not having enough sex, though, say something.
I should say that that's not the only reason he broke up with me. I'm not naive enough to believe that it wasn't a big part of it, though.
This must be a tough situation for you. You mention a couple of times that this is something important for you. If you feel strongly about this, there is no reason why you shouldn't talk to him. As you say, it is important to pick the right moment, and it is understandable for you to feel worried about mentioning this to him as it is early days.
There could be many reasons why he might not feel the need as much as you do. As krng mentioned his sex drive might be different to yours. Or he may have low libido, due to many different reasons e.g. tired, down...?
Either way perhaps speaking to him might help. Communication in couples is essential in order to deal with certain issues. He might react defensively at first, yet just try and make sure he knows you are not attacking him and that you simply enjoy having sex with him and this is why you are asking!
Please do not hesitate to keep posting,
Good luck
Although that's mostly the ones that aren't getting it...
So what about those who are getting it?
Nowhere, all their base are belong to us.
I rather fancy it belongs in response to horribly crafted grammar
btw I get loads so hence my interest in your no doubt highly insightful theory :cool:
Seek and ye shall find.
Katralla suggest they would want more. I'm not so sure - but the only people I know who express a desire for sex that often aren't getting it very often at all - but of course there is a huge difference between wanting it more,. and saying you want it.
Well sure, you're not likely to express how much you want something when you're already getting it to the extent that you would when you're not getting it. That makes sense.
But you're saying people who are getting it don't desire it, right?
I dont think the fact some people might not have even had sex by that point, is relevant. if youve started having sex, and its anything other than cant keep your hands off each other" id say there wasnt enough passion for me