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Single forever?
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I take quite a relaxed approach to finding a man and never go out ‘looking’. This is because I am secure enough not to need a man, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t like one. I also believe I will meet someone when the time is right. The problem is, I’m now 25 and have never been in a long term/serious relationship. As most of my friends are now settled down in their own relationships, they don’t like to go out as much, which is a problem, as I still do. This also means I don’t get to meet men as much in that way anymore, and I’m starting to feel as though I’ll be single forever!
I’ve had plenty of flings, but I’m tired of that now and would really like to have a boyfriend for a change. I’m confident and outgoing, and don’t find it hard to chat to men, so that isn’t an issue. I think my independence can put them off slightly, but that’s not something that will change, as I have always been an independent person, and am proud to say so. I would love to meet a man who is equally as independent.
Anyway, as yet another ‘single’ Christmas approaches, I will, as usual, keep my spirits up and wonder if when the next one comes, things will be different. Any ideas??
I think the obvious may be joining certain groups, etc. But I am looking for more original advice!
Thanks guys x
I’ve had plenty of flings, but I’m tired of that now and would really like to have a boyfriend for a change. I’m confident and outgoing, and don’t find it hard to chat to men, so that isn’t an issue. I think my independence can put them off slightly, but that’s not something that will change, as I have always been an independent person, and am proud to say so. I would love to meet a man who is equally as independent.
Anyway, as yet another ‘single’ Christmas approaches, I will, as usual, keep my spirits up and wonder if when the next one comes, things will be different. Any ideas??
I think the obvious may be joining certain groups, etc. But I am looking for more original advice!
Thanks guys x
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But i get the whole point of not going out as much being a problem. For me if i've had any luck its been from meeting people on nights out or from wherever i worked. Other then that i wouldnt really know!
GoodFella...work is pretty much aaaalways how I meet guys. And I've actually met some decent ones that way. It's good because you can get to know if you actually like them first, which is a bonus as I'm so fed up of dating.
I usually go for confident men, which I think is a problem because they are usually the 'fling' kinda guys!
It took me until I was 35 to meet my soulmate and up to that point I had never been in a fulfilling relationship. The reason I agree with you is some will say "you won't find love if you're keep looking for it", implying that true love will only come if you stop looking for it. That is complete bollocks. I've never stopped looking for 'the one'. I've never come across as desperate but I was always ready to settle down if the right one came along and finally she did.
The real thing will come when it, not you or anyone else, is ready. I don't do 'destiny' and all that crap but you will meet 'him' when the time is right. Bear in mind you might get hurt along the way, and you might end up doing the hurting yourself. But he will come.
Glenn, I totally agree. Guess I'm just fed up of waiting and of meeting idiots :banghead: I haven't dated for a while now, I wanted a bit of a break lol.
I totally agree with this. I'm in a similar position, but I've already had long relationships. Nowadays I think they weren't fullfilling anyway. So I'll keep on looking to my partner whenever and wherever I can. Don't give up and keep looking.
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I'm not unhappy with my life - more i guess i've reached that point where i would like to share it with someone, i just gets me down when im out with mates or watching a film at a mates place and they cuddle up with other halfs that kind of thing, it has it's benifits being single sometimes, but like you i guess im getting impatient
Ditto. The rate of my fellow peers getting engaged/having babies/settling down is scaring me. And it's only going to get worse!
It's scaring me too. A Facebook friend (someone from school) is about 7 months older than me and has been married for about a year.
Because they are probably looking at u and envying your independent life lol.
Life is soooo short go out and enjoy everyday it will happen when it happens, in your 20's u should be having fun times and if it has not happened yet in your 30's your looking in the wrong places!!!
Plenty of time in your late 20's early 30's to be skint changing shitty nappy and dealing with crying babies and cooking meals and washing and cleaning lol hahahahahah its not all its cracked up 2 b . But when it happens at the right time the changing nappys and all the above will i mentioned will be brilliant :d x
It's great because you are often doing something with a group of people who have chosen to do something similar to you and therefore you are starting off on a similar page anyway. You have things to talk about and engage with them as you are both working on something together - and there is no pressure in the same way there is about joining a dating site or anything - as the main reason for being together is the work in hand and not just 'meeting people'.
The Do-it site has a huge range of types of volunteering and opportunities which you can explore and try out.
Although recently...I have met someone really nice
Couldn't agree more!! :thumb: