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Met my online date for the first time...
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I have been in touch with a guy I met on an online dating site. He seemed really nice and was very open on the fact he wasn't just looking for sex and would talk about how opposed to this he is (really good in my opinion). We swapped pics and then started phoning each other and could easily talk for an hour and a half.
Anyway we finally met up yesterday at a restaurant. I dressed up, not over the top, but a nice skirt, leggings and a nice top. He phoned me to check where I was, when I noticed somebody approaching me on their phone wearing a hoody! Anyway we had the meal, the pics he sent me he had dark hair but he clearly was blond and greying and claims to be 27.
On the whole he was a nice person and I enjoyed the date, but I am concerned about his age and why he didn't put any effort into his appearance. Or am I worrying and it's just a man thing???
Anyway we finally met up yesterday at a restaurant. I dressed up, not over the top, but a nice skirt, leggings and a nice top. He phoned me to check where I was, when I noticed somebody approaching me on their phone wearing a hoody! Anyway we had the meal, the pics he sent me he had dark hair but he clearly was blond and greying and claims to be 27.
On the whole he was a nice person and I enjoyed the date, but I am concerned about his age and why he didn't put any effort into his appearance. Or am I worrying and it's just a man thing???
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Yes, he could be 27 and his hair could already be starting to go grey but I'd say that isn't very common and chances are he's older. As for the colour change of his hair, again he could have dyed it, but why would he have dont that without telling you?
Please be careful!
i think you have to decide whether you are prepared to get involved with someone who lied to you. he might have sent you a different picture because he lacks confidence or is embarassed about his hair or whatever but is that really a good start for a potential friendship or relationship? if he will lie about something as superficial as his hair colour then what else would he lie about? it depends on whether you are prepared to take that chance or not.
I'm sure you have read all the warnings about Internet grooming, so there is no need for me to lecture. However, do think about your meeting. The fact that the man was nice to you is no guarantee that his intentions are "honorable". If he hadn't been nice, he knows you would have just walked away and not wanted to contact him again. You clearly have concerns, otherwise you would not have posted here. My own advice would be to report this guy to the dating site. At the very least, if you haven't done so already, tell someone you trust about your meeting and show them the photos he sent you.