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Too quick... :/
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Hey, I sort of get embarassed talking about this, but I do need some more opinions on what to do...
I've been with my gf about 5 months now, but I don't last very long during sex. Maybe an average of about 5 minutes, a maximum of 10... More often than not, if I'm not completely physically knackered I would finish her off. Although she says she is fine with it, its obvious she is not.
The difference is, I never used to be that quick. I split up with my most recent ex about 18 months ago and I used to last on average at least an hour.
I've tried masturbating before and I've tried thinking of other things during sex, but nothing has worked.
I don't know whether it is a good thing that I climax quicker with my gf than with my ex's or not, because I know it does mean that I am more attracted to her (which I do know to be true ) but on the other hand, I always feel bad that I can never be as good as I have been before.
Anyone help at all?
Thanks
I've been with my gf about 5 months now, but I don't last very long during sex. Maybe an average of about 5 minutes, a maximum of 10... More often than not, if I'm not completely physically knackered I would finish her off. Although she says she is fine with it, its obvious she is not.
The difference is, I never used to be that quick. I split up with my most recent ex about 18 months ago and I used to last on average at least an hour.
I've tried masturbating before and I've tried thinking of other things during sex, but nothing has worked.
I don't know whether it is a good thing that I climax quicker with my gf than with my ex's or not, because I know it does mean that I am more attracted to her (which I do know to be true ) but on the other hand, I always feel bad that I can never be as good as I have been before.
Anyone help at all?
Thanks
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The problem really is that once you climax, it is probably almost impossible to get your gf to orgasm. What we do is to compensate by my OH making me come either orally or using his hands/fingers before entering me himself. That way, I am already excited, so he can be quite rough if he wants to, and if he doesn't last very long, it doesn't matter. It's still good.
You have other appendages. Use them! Then tack your 5-10 minutes on the end as your grand finale, rather than the be-all and end-all.
I wholeheartedly agree! I'm a lot quicker than 5 - 10 minutes, but I do spend a lot of time making sure the OH is good to go, and even afterwards when I'm slightly embarrased, she still tells me it was amazing, and hasn't gone off me yet.
ROFL yet so true.