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death in friends family
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Just wanted peoples opinions on this.
A few weeks ago my friend, who I considered to be one of my closest friends, had to cancel going out because she said she had to take her mom to the hospital. (we do all our communication via text... ) And I replied to her asking what was wrong and if everything was ok. She didn't respond. The next day I asked again how her mom was doing, if it was anything serious and that again. She never responded to those questions and just changed the subject.
I figured it was private and personal and didn't push the topic anymore. Perhaps it was a complication from a labiaplasty, obviously awkward and none of my business so I didn't ask again. We've chatted a few times and she has never mentioned it.
Today I find out her mom passed away. One one had I'm a bit mad that she never said anything, but then that would make me the worlds biggest bitch for thinking that. But I wonder why... I was talking to another friend of ours and she had told her what was going on... I feel very sad for her and a bit hurt as well... and now just plain psycho that I'm actually thinking about myself in this situation!
A few weeks ago my friend, who I considered to be one of my closest friends, had to cancel going out because she said she had to take her mom to the hospital. (we do all our communication via text... ) And I replied to her asking what was wrong and if everything was ok. She didn't respond. The next day I asked again how her mom was doing, if it was anything serious and that again. She never responded to those questions and just changed the subject.
I figured it was private and personal and didn't push the topic anymore. Perhaps it was a complication from a labiaplasty, obviously awkward and none of my business so I didn't ask again. We've chatted a few times and she has never mentioned it.
Today I find out her mom passed away. One one had I'm a bit mad that she never said anything, but then that would make me the worlds biggest bitch for thinking that. But I wonder why... I was talking to another friend of ours and she had told her what was going on... I feel very sad for her and a bit hurt as well... and now just plain psycho that I'm actually thinking about myself in this situation!
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She baffles me so much, but some people are just the way they are.
I haven't explained myself very well... but what I mean is that it probably has nothing to do with how she sees you as a friend. Its just she was relying on you to be the one that she could just forget about everything with, and it just so happened that it all came out with the other friend.
My dad died two years ago, and I'm quite alright with talking about it, but whenever I tell someone that it happened, there is almost always this awkward moment from them with a "shit i don't know what to say to that argh!" thing. So some people may have a problem dealing with that.