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how long does it take to get over having your heart broken??
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There is no definitive answer (a few weeks to a year or more) but it DOES get better. Just hang in there. *hugs*
Take care
Yes I should have known not to get involved with a guy so, well, unavailable but I listened to my heart not my head and got too involved in a sticky situation. Now I'm in agony.
But with time I realised (and you will too) that what I was missing wasn't actually him, (there were reasons we broke up and it wouldn't have been so painful if he weren't such a cripplingly selfish person), what I miss sometimes is the idea of him - of having someone to share my life with and to be there for me.
Think about the reasons you broke up, how it was in the last few weeks compared to the first few. It doesn't feel like it now but how you deal with heartbreak does a lot to define who you are in later life. You will be a stronger, wiser person for it and more able to decide who really is right for you.
It does vary. Different people, different things...
Couldnt have said it better myself, this is exactly how i feel at times. Every time you think of him, think about the bad things about him rather than the good. It might take a while but you wil get over him.
Yep that's right... and I even (though somewhat misguidedly) attempted to tell the girl what kind of guy she's letting herself in for, but of course I was the slut.. and then he managed to convince her I made it up. I understand her completely though, because I got cheated on and my first instinct wasn't to get rid of my pathetic boyfriend, but to start a hate campaign against the girl he cheated on me with... I only realised 1 year later that our relationship was dead and I couldn't trust him anymore, and finished with him.
Every day that passes I think of another thing he did to hurt me, and it makes it easier. I also tell myself when I think that I miss him, that I don't miss him, just the person he was once... or rather the person I thought he was, if that makes sense.
C-A x
i'm trying to get him out of my memory anyway.