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Help...I'm in love with a friend who is married..And she doesn't know.
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I have been friends with this girl for 5 years now we talk about...everything. The problem lies in the fact i have been in love with her for as long as i can remember. I assure you it's not lust or some fling but i really truly love her. The problem? she is married, to make matters worse i am the first person she talks to about any problems with her marriage and lately it seems like a lot. Most recently she told me how upset she was because while she is not a woman of physical possessions her husband did not even get her a card for there anniversary...not only that but went to bed early as if the night did not matter. It's hard to tell at times whether or not they are happy or not, they do not have any kids together. The problem is i am at my wits end to the point each day is depressing knowing i am not with her. And she knows something is up because she knows me well enough to know when i am depressed...so i made up a story about some problems i was having with some friends of mine (well not made up but made it out to be more then it was). Even WORSE we now work together and see each other 35-40 hours a week and talk all the time at work too...I don't want to interfere in someones marriage but god help me i love this woman enough to die for her. What do i do?
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You need to get some space between her and yourself. Yes, you work together now, but you need to distance yourself after work.
What do you expect to achieve if you tell her how you feel?
If you really do love her then you can either
1.Move on and try find someone else and be friends.
2.Wait. Don't try and influence things, just be there. However you feel, you don't want to be the reason for a marriage breaking up.