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Friend talking to my ex
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Sorry if I'm being a bit daft here, but a friend just told me that she's been talking to my ex over Facebook. They barely knew each other and must've met each other about 5 times the entire time we were together. To be honest, I'm a bit pissed off. She says it's only friendly, how're you? kind of things but I don't see why she's talking to him, especially after I explicitly stated to all my friends that whilst I couldn't stop them, I'd prefer it if they didn't talk to him and under no circumstances were they to tell me if they were keeping in touch or how he's doing. This is not what I need.
I think what riles me more is that this friend has been too busy to comfort me after my relationship ended, not even a phonecall or a text to see how I was doing, but she's got enough time to be pally to my ex who she barely knew.
Any thoughts?
I think what riles me more is that this friend has been too busy to comfort me after my relationship ended, not even a phonecall or a text to see how I was doing, but she's got enough time to be pally to my ex who she barely knew.
Any thoughts?
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If he contacted her first then I can understand her replying, just to be civil etc, but if she contacted him first after hardley knowing him I would be a bit weary!
I said I'd prefer it if she didn't talk to him or at least didn't mention it and she was pretty much like 'I know he hurt you but I just wanted to see how he was' which was a bit of a strange thing to say.
I do seem to be falling out with a lot of people lately!
:yes: You can't choose who your friends do & don't talk to.
I don't care if she's talking to him but I told her that I don't want to know anything about it.
Yeah but really that's kind of your problem. If it bothers you on facebook, you can ignore their entries.
definately :yes:
Do you see what I'm trying to say?
Not that this is a bad thing, but it's a matter of fact. Don't bother with that stuff.
I'm well aware that I'm not over it, he was my first love and I was with him for quite a while. I'm trying my best to deal with it but it's not going to happen today, tomorrow or next week. I don't want to know how he is. If my friends do, then fine, but I don't want them telling me, especially when they've not been bothered to find out how I'm doing. If there is something that important that has happened in his life that he needs to tell me, he knows where to find me.
Hope this helps
I think I'll avoid her for a little while to let things cool down and see how we both feel then. I did say that I'd prefer it if she didn't talk to him but she just said 'k' and went offline. Oh well. The thing is, I know she wouldn't like it if I was talking to her ex, so I don't know why she thinks it'd be different the other way round.
I think she probably fancied him tbh. I think avoiding her is probably your best bet atm.
If you stays friends and they date it makes things awkward between you and it got so bad when i did it i blew my best mate off (and if things didnt go pear shape with the girl it would of been the biggest mistake of my life).
Now it depends on how close you two are but its really up to her to decied what she wants. Im lucky that my mate didnt let me completely go but we where in a world of hurt for a while (and still sorting things out) and i would recommend letting her go if she doesnt value your friendship to avoid the pain and hurt that will come of it.
Do you know something I don't?
To Melian, I will send her a message saying that