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Letting a friend down
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have a mate who has had heart surgery...
A lot of people let her down when she went in and she was really upset. I feel bad because I couldn't afford the time off work to see her, as I have been in a really bad place financially for the past year.
She'd been in hospital and got out and I said I'd help her do things, like clean her hamster's cage and her house as the hospital after care is crap. On Monday, I couldn't help because I have been really involved with community radio (and working full time days 'til Friday) and had an evening show as a part of a local festival thingy... She txt me Friday asking if she wanna meet Monday...
It's a crap excuse, but I've had a lot on my mind as well as being insanely busy. I tend to forget things when I'm really put off by other things... I forgot I hadn't text her back to arrange to do something and I txt her back Sunday thinking "shit!" and now she's saying no can do as she's booked every day of the week.
I feel bad because I just got laid off and it's not like I am mega busy... I just have a brain like a seive...
Most of all I cherish my friends and try to be good to them... But yet again I let myself get busy and forget things like this. Especially as so many people let her down and she's gutted about it. I am more than happy to help her out of course because I see good friends like family.
I have a habit of comitting to things too easy, or getting involved a lot and as a result forget to keep contact with friends because I get so engrossed or overly passionate. I did this at university... I think I could have got a 1st if I wasn't so involved with other things.
Do I sound like a crap person?
I try to be good but I am so bad at forgetting things...
How do I appologise to my friend because I am rubbish at these things?
I think she is annoyed I can't make those dates.
My friend is suffering and I let her down.
A lot of people let her down when she went in and she was really upset. I feel bad because I couldn't afford the time off work to see her, as I have been in a really bad place financially for the past year.
She'd been in hospital and got out and I said I'd help her do things, like clean her hamster's cage and her house as the hospital after care is crap. On Monday, I couldn't help because I have been really involved with community radio (and working full time days 'til Friday) and had an evening show as a part of a local festival thingy... She txt me Friday asking if she wanna meet Monday...
It's a crap excuse, but I've had a lot on my mind as well as being insanely busy. I tend to forget things when I'm really put off by other things... I forgot I hadn't text her back to arrange to do something and I txt her back Sunday thinking "shit!" and now she's saying no can do as she's booked every day of the week.
I feel bad because I just got laid off and it's not like I am mega busy... I just have a brain like a seive...
Most of all I cherish my friends and try to be good to them... But yet again I let myself get busy and forget things like this. Especially as so many people let her down and she's gutted about it. I am more than happy to help her out of course because I see good friends like family.
I have a habit of comitting to things too easy, or getting involved a lot and as a result forget to keep contact with friends because I get so engrossed or overly passionate. I did this at university... I think I could have got a 1st if I wasn't so involved with other things.
Do I sound like a crap person?
I try to be good but I am so bad at forgetting things...
How do I appologise to my friend because I am rubbish at these things?
I think she is annoyed I can't make those dates.
My friend is suffering and I let her down.
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if it was me, i guess i would be a bit annoyed and that along with what she must have been through probably makes it all seem worse than it is. but i think if my friend sent me something and apologised that'd be enough
I'm just the same as you. No, you're not a crap person
I would think/hope she knows this about you, and if you apologise, she'll realise straight away that you're being sincere and things will be fine
Above ideas are all good. Make a gesture of apology, spend some quality time with her ASAP.