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i am going to go to the doctors in a few weeks when i get back to Manchester, to talk about my feelings, i have been depressed for 4 years, i have self harmed for 3 and a half years and i am suicidal. i hav at last decided to do something about it when i was inspired by someone who had come through similar things, who i recently met. i am scared that they will tell my parents even though i am 18, i am also scared of them not helping and just being unhelpful. i am really scared of and hate talking to people about my problems. i hav also started having panic attacks in the last few weeks.
any help or encouragement would be nice.
thanks x
any help or encouragement would be nice.
thanks x
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its really good that you've decided to get help. i find it hard to talk to people too but once you've done it you do feel different and more able to cope with things. a weight shall be lifted from your shoulders!!!
If your parents are being unhelpful, try and tell them so. it depends on your relationship with your parents whether you want them to know. it can help ease their worry and prevent them from hassling you.
think positive and good things will happen :thumb: good luck
If you're over 18 they can't tell your parents anything, so you're quite safe from that concern. It would be worth rethinking your desire to not tell your parents though, one thing to be aware of, especially if your mum knows you've had problems before, that if she suspects you're having problems again and doesn't know your getting help she'll be a lot more worried than if she knows you are.
All the best with the appointment.
xx
Hi imohorn18,:)
Sorry to hear you are having difficulties at the moment but well done for feeling the courage to sort things out, we also hope that you find the encouragement you need here on the forum.
Youve mentioned having difficulites talking to others about your feelings, have you considered accessing counselling?counselling can provide a neutral, non judgemental and confidential way to explore your feeling. Here is some information on counselling and self harm, hopefully this will be helpful.
keep posting:wave:
I understand kind of my friends diagnosed with bi-polar +currantly in hospital 10 days now.
Just dont keep it bottled up.
Let us know how you get on.:wave:
I have tried 3 different counsellers and only had a max of 3 sessions with each of them, which I know isnt enough. I dont really like them as the first one I saw shouted at me and that has put me off, the others I was sort of made to go to by school and the doctor. when i go to the doctors i will ask about counselling and as it is my choice to go I hope I may speak at the session in stead of sitting in silence, I am just very nervous of getting another bad one.
At your age your parents shouldn't be told about anything. GPs often suggest that you talk to your parents if they're supportive, but if they're not really able to support you (for whatever reason) the GP won't go behind your back. If you use the college counselling and welfare service they definitely won't tell your parents.
If you're worried about talking to your GP, try writing things down, as other people have suggested.
The most important thing is to talk to people about how you're feeling. Don't think you have to suffer in silence. If you tell your college they can help, even if you don't want to use counselling they can make sure you're looked after academically as well as emotionally.
As for college, if it's been affecting your work, tell them as soon as possible. They can't help and they can't take it into account unless you tell them.
For what it's worth, I spent most of my University years either slicing my arms open or collapsing in puddles of tears. I don't do it now.
thanks for the encouragement, it really helps me to know that others have come through what i am going through, thats the reason why i have decided to do something after 4 years because i met someone who had come through depression, and i thought if she can then maybe i can get through.
Write down the things you worry about.
Talk with friends.
Go out to sports or travelling.
Encourage yourself.
That's what i think.