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How to behave/act in somebody elses home?
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Hello all
Been to Portsmouth today to view 4 diffrent places to live. 2 of them were horriable and really not somewhere i would want to live. 1 of them was ok but a bit expensive. but there was one that i LOVED !!!
This guy has a gorgeous flat in a brand new building, its 2 bedrooms and he has one and im going to have the other. So its just me and him. The flat is amazing, u have to be buzzed in and there is a camara down there so you can see whos at the front door, there is a lift as his flat is on the top floor and the view over pompey and the isle of wight is amazing from the balcony. it really is the best flat i've ever been in! and he only wants £300 a month all inclusive!!!! I feel like i've struck gold!
The question i want to know is.... do i attempt to hang out in the living room with him (hes 24, im 22 so we are similar in age) on my first night there (tomorow) or do i stay in my room?? what if i sit in the living room and he secretly wants me to go?? or what if i stay in my room and he thinks im rude? oh god lol. i think its going 2 be quite awquard to begin with....
Any hints or tips for making and maintaining a good impression? x
Been to Portsmouth today to view 4 diffrent places to live. 2 of them were horriable and really not somewhere i would want to live. 1 of them was ok but a bit expensive. but there was one that i LOVED !!!
This guy has a gorgeous flat in a brand new building, its 2 bedrooms and he has one and im going to have the other. So its just me and him. The flat is amazing, u have to be buzzed in and there is a camara down there so you can see whos at the front door, there is a lift as his flat is on the top floor and the view over pompey and the isle of wight is amazing from the balcony. it really is the best flat i've ever been in! and he only wants £300 a month all inclusive!!!! I feel like i've struck gold!
The question i want to know is.... do i attempt to hang out in the living room with him (hes 24, im 22 so we are similar in age) on my first night there (tomorow) or do i stay in my room?? what if i sit in the living room and he secretly wants me to go?? or what if i stay in my room and he thinks im rude? oh god lol. i think its going 2 be quite awquard to begin with....
Any hints or tips for making and maintaining a good impression? x
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If he wants to be alone or away from you I'm sure he'll just go to his own room.
You can usually tell if there's loads of awkward silence or whatever if it's best to just leave the 'getting to know you' bit for a while - and you can always say you're just going to unpack for a bit or whatnot for a while. But it might be nice to make conversation and bond a bit on the first day if you're going to be sharing the same space for a while.
That is what I would do anyway
Good luck!
and yeah I like the "I'm going to unpack excuse" too.
Yeah this is how i'm going to feel after all it is his flat and hes lived there on his own 4 a while
I'd probably just play it by ear. If he's in there first then just see how chatty he is. If you're in there first then the balls in his court to play it out how he feels comfortable. The thing is you'll both be in the same boat with not being used to it so really wouldn't worry too much. Maybe you could get in from work, then find somewhere to nip out later? Check out your new area bit etc. so you're not just sat in twiddling your thumbs?
Agreed.
If you're sharing a house, then you're doing exactly that - sharing. All cool. Just be yourself, and agree with the suggestion that a quick walk around the area could be a winner. Perhaps a bottle of wine. Otherwise, just relax, take it easy, and enjoy your new found freedom!
This is a good idea, i just hope he don't think i'm coming into him in any way with the wine hehe x
That, of course, is another unwritten rule Don't doink your housemates!!
I'm sure he won't interpret a glass of wine wrong!
Try those.
Just go in, and ask "Can I watch?" Job done.
its normal!
don't get embaressed, after all you do live there now.
why not talk to him about what he is and isn't ok with?
we have had the chat about whats cool and what aint and its all the normal stuff, he seems like a pretty chilled out kinda guy so am just gunna see how it goes and hope 4 the best