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Some sage advice needed..
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I'm 24, and only recently had intercourse for the first time with a girl I met a few weeks ago. We were both pretty excitable, and a bit drunk after the night of dancing..and of course ended up in bed together, and having sex. We did not use protection..she has taken the morning after pill today (this all happened early Sunday morning), but I'm concerned about STDs(which are part of the reason I believe it's taken me so long to pluck up the courage to actually go further than the beginings of a relationship).
Would I be recommended to go to my GP, get checked for anything in particular?
When we spoke in the morning about what happened, I said that I had came inside of her, and her immediate reaction was that she 'had no feelings for me', that we should 'stop it before someone gets hurt'. When she found out that she was infact the first girl I'd slept with, her tune changed to 'we can still be friends, if you want' and 'maybe we can get more "practice" in another time'. I'm not sure what to think right now.
Any sage words you could give would be greatly appreciated.
Would I be recommended to go to my GP, get checked for anything in particular?
When we spoke in the morning about what happened, I said that I had came inside of her, and her immediate reaction was that she 'had no feelings for me', that we should 'stop it before someone gets hurt'. When she found out that she was infact the first girl I'd slept with, her tune changed to 'we can still be friends, if you want' and 'maybe we can get more "practice" in another time'. I'm not sure what to think right now.
Any sage words you could give would be greatly appreciated.
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Maybe you should get checked out. If she's had unprotected sex with you only after just meeting, she may well have done it in the past.
Remember, rubber up, next time.
As for the girl, she doesn't seem like she wants to be your girlfriend. I'd leave it there, if that's what you're after. Friends or hump-buddies seems to be the best you can hope for, but if you go down the hump-buddy road, use protection, as I doubt she'll want to be exclusive. Also, don't fall in love with her. That'll screw you up, big time.
With regards to falling in love with her, of course there have already been some feelings seeded, but having gone through a very close friendship in the past which got to the stage of being 'too good friends to be anything else', I know all too well how bad falling in love with someone that does not love you in the same way can be.
Thanks again The Convincer.
Anyway, no probs with the advice. I hope everything turns out to be okay.