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Relationship advice in a relationship advice discussion board? No way!
I'm crap at advice and knowing what people may or may not be thinking so maybe I can steal some from you guys
So my lady friend met a dude. They hit it off nicely and have been "Seeing eachother" for nearly 5 months. However, they are not exclusive. She is ok with that... she says... but sometimes I wonder...
He told her a couple weeks ago, that he "needed to be honest" with her and told her he was still seeing other girls but was definatly spending the most time with her. She already knew he was seeing other people and didn't have a problem with that.
I took the "spending most time with her" as a positive and that maybe he wanted something more... but I was the only person that thought that
Now she says the other day he called her up for a booty call (she doesn't do that) and he didn't even text her happy valentines or anything and she says it makes her think of how little he probably thinks of her. And that when they are together it is all lovey dovey and nice but when they are apart it is nothing.
So, advice I can give to her, lol? At first I thought things were looking good but now I'm thinking not? I feel so bad I have nothing to ever say to her, it probably seems like I dont give a crap sometimes and I dont want her to think that!
I'm crap at advice and knowing what people may or may not be thinking so maybe I can steal some from you guys
So my lady friend met a dude. They hit it off nicely and have been "Seeing eachother" for nearly 5 months. However, they are not exclusive. She is ok with that... she says... but sometimes I wonder...
He told her a couple weeks ago, that he "needed to be honest" with her and told her he was still seeing other girls but was definatly spending the most time with her. She already knew he was seeing other people and didn't have a problem with that.
I took the "spending most time with her" as a positive and that maybe he wanted something more... but I was the only person that thought that
Now she says the other day he called her up for a booty call (she doesn't do that) and he didn't even text her happy valentines or anything and she says it makes her think of how little he probably thinks of her. And that when they are together it is all lovey dovey and nice but when they are apart it is nothing.
So, advice I can give to her, lol? At first I thought things were looking good but now I'm thinking not? I feel so bad I have nothing to ever say to her, it probably seems like I dont give a crap sometimes and I dont want her to think that!
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Until this last time she said she was ok with how things were, but before she met him, I know she was looking for a real full on relationship. She was sick of all the flings and looking to settle down. I'm starting to think this thing is like halfway between the two so so she thinks she is ok with it or something
Oh maybe I should say that...
And thank you
He certainly doesn't seem to be putting much effort in, and still seeing other girls... the impression I get is that if he liked her that much he would be 'exclusive' with her by now. I personally wouldn't be wasting time with him. If she really likes him I think it's about time to say 'it's either just me or no me'.
But I think it works differently in america so I dunno what the usual time-frame for this kind of thing is.
I don't know, I have better taste in tv and have never seen that What do they do there? Though they are what, like 70? We are younguns so the dating scene may be different then too
I think you guys are right, just tell her to suck it up and ask the me or no me. :thumb:
HAHA!
It's just all the seeing several people at a time and having month long relationships without it being exclusive.
It all sounds very confusing.
Yeah... that's pretty much how it goes. At least that is what I have been experiencing lately. It can be interesting.