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First of all, id just like to point out that i really hate being on benefits, and wouldnt be if i had any other choice.
Right. I got made unemployed in April last year, and have only managed to have a few week long temporary jobs since. This is mainly due to the fact that im only qualified in childcare, which for reasons beyond my control i cannot work in at the moment, and im only 18 and cannot drive. I started claiming JSA about 7 weeks ago, and get £92 a fortnight, i think.
Three weeks ago i was kicked out of home. My parents decided that they would be better parents to my youngest sister if us oldest three left, and gave us no choice. My mum fought me, and i left without any belongings. Now i cant go back for them, my neighbour has informed me my parents hired a skip and got rid of everything.
Right now im living with my boyfriends parents. My sister has gone to stay with my oldest sister, who was kicked out at 17, and social services housed her. She has a steady income, and has given my sister a haircut and a room and some clothes etc, so they are fine. Im not. My sister cant have me as well, she cant afford too, and i certainly cant stay here much longer. My boyfriends a uni student, and spends all day in Birmingham, so i end up just wondering around his town. Even buying basics food, i cannot afford anything, and i only have one outfit. His mums given me a few of her tops to wear but they are huge and i urgently need a hair cut and some clothes that fit. Looking like this, no one will employ me.
Is there anything i can do? My head is pounding, i feel like such a pain being here and im wasting my life away. There is no one i can turn too. Most of my friends have disowned me, and im so lonely and i feel so useless that i just sleep all day. Which dosent help anything, and then i wake with a headache and feel so depressed.....
Any help anyone can suggest would be really appreciated
Right. I got made unemployed in April last year, and have only managed to have a few week long temporary jobs since. This is mainly due to the fact that im only qualified in childcare, which for reasons beyond my control i cannot work in at the moment, and im only 18 and cannot drive. I started claiming JSA about 7 weeks ago, and get £92 a fortnight, i think.
Three weeks ago i was kicked out of home. My parents decided that they would be better parents to my youngest sister if us oldest three left, and gave us no choice. My mum fought me, and i left without any belongings. Now i cant go back for them, my neighbour has informed me my parents hired a skip and got rid of everything.
Right now im living with my boyfriends parents. My sister has gone to stay with my oldest sister, who was kicked out at 17, and social services housed her. She has a steady income, and has given my sister a haircut and a room and some clothes etc, so they are fine. Im not. My sister cant have me as well, she cant afford too, and i certainly cant stay here much longer. My boyfriends a uni student, and spends all day in Birmingham, so i end up just wondering around his town. Even buying basics food, i cannot afford anything, and i only have one outfit. His mums given me a few of her tops to wear but they are huge and i urgently need a hair cut and some clothes that fit. Looking like this, no one will employ me.
Is there anything i can do? My head is pounding, i feel like such a pain being here and im wasting my life away. There is no one i can turn too. Most of my friends have disowned me, and im so lonely and i feel so useless that i just sleep all day. Which dosent help anything, and then i wake with a headache and feel so depressed.....
Any help anyone can suggest would be really appreciated
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I am sorry that your parents have kicked you out. Believe me I know how you are hurting right now.
what about trying shelter they are a charity that help homeless people. I am sure too that talking here on this site will help you. Talking can help in lots of ways. Try and have a look at the site information it has loads there might be other ways of help that you can get and please do not give up hope.
Thanks for the fast response, ive been having a read around the site and ill continue to do so.
And ive made the writing bigger, sorry x
My own GP is unreachable but i might try and register round here so i can talk to them.
I guess theres not much i can do right now but tomorrow ill be off to the job center to see what they say. Its a two hour walk, so ill be feeling fit at the end!!
Its nice having people to talk too, thanks again. I just feel so utterly lost and helpless.
Go to the CAB as well, the jobcentre are often very unhelpful, i have found them to be when i've had to sort out income support claims.
do your best and try to stay positive. i've been in situations where i've just had to wonder the streets all day. don't! go to a library, or somewhere like that, the staff are often very helpful and on the whole quite kind, and i've spent weeks and weeks sitting in libraries, on the net and reading books. it stops the feeling of being utterly helpless and alone...
keep your chin up, i've been in a similar situation 3 years ago, and it was utter hell. it will get better!
Do you not have any friends that you can borrow clothes from? or even see if they will spare you their 'cast offs'. With a couple of mates we're always swapping clothes around when we get bored of them.
with hopes for your success and well-being
best wishes!