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basically, the friend of mine who has a sex addiction which he now seems to be working on and is getting a lot better...well i've got an fallen for him quite badly...
oh dear, yes, i don't need a lecture here i've given myself enough...
So, rather than giving him an ultimatum, or saying the L word or anything too scary like that, i've decided that i just want to let him know how i feel and ask him to clarify his feelings towards me.
my major problem is....how the fuck do i actually do this? We're on the same course at uni and i did suggest he came over to mine and we worked on some project planning together...but he'd prefer to do it on his own. I've invited him over for new years but i'm not gonna do it then just incase it does go horribly wrong...
any ideas? I'm also shiting myself about it!
I'm giving him one last chance before i just drop the whole thing and move on...
oh dear, yes, i don't need a lecture here i've given myself enough...
So, rather than giving him an ultimatum, or saying the L word or anything too scary like that, i've decided that i just want to let him know how i feel and ask him to clarify his feelings towards me.
my major problem is....how the fuck do i actually do this? We're on the same course at uni and i did suggest he came over to mine and we worked on some project planning together...but he'd prefer to do it on his own. I've invited him over for new years but i'm not gonna do it then just incase it does go horribly wrong...
any ideas? I'm also shiting myself about it!
I'm giving him one last chance before i just drop the whole thing and move on...
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tis difficult!
you had a good christmas?
I would just let nature take its course. I wouldn't make to much of a fuss just in case he doesn't have the same feelings and then you get hurt.
Hope all goes well.
I can't leave this one to chance...nature is crap when it comes to relationships...what i'm asking here for is suggestions about how i can approach the subject without freaking him out.
Its ackward for a girl to walk up and be like how do you feel about me?...Trust me been there done that. Im here to say (sadly) You have to find a way to sneak a hint for him to tell hisn feelings about you~..(If possible)
So none of the 'love', none of the 'I've fallen for you'. Just the simplier - 'I like you as more then a friend and want to know if you like me more, and if there is any possibility that we could take it further'.
Or something along those lines which doesn't take away too much of your dignity and leave you feeling over-exposed and embarrassed. At the end of the day, if you want a response you're gonna have to ask the question, and that is never gonna be easy. Just out with it is all I can suggest and then you can pick up from whatever he leaves you with - whether its more or just friendship.
i can't do it over the phone can i?
i've written him a letter, would it be ok to email it to him or do i need to give it to him in person?