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How to get your man to enjoy performing oral on you?
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My husband and I have been together for almost 13 yrs and he rarely performs oral on me. He says he has trouble breathing when he does that and that he didn't like all the hair down there. I took care of the hair issue and we tried it with me sitting on his face and he still has issues with it. I know I don't have any odor issues there as I had that checked out by my dr. He's only gotten me to climax once and I really enjoy oral. How do I get him to do it more? I don't want to go looking for it elsewhere. Any ideas?
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I know i love doing it, but hey, that's just me!
I'm a 'what thou receives, thou should giveth'
I went out with someone who was happy to receive but not happy to give!
That's just the way some people are unfortunately.
You could try and tempt him by introducing chocolate...or beer?:thumb: lol
It's something that you'll have to make more tempting for him - ie, chocolate, cream, beer?
Do you perform oral on him? Do you do it well and swallow or go al, yucky spit it everywhere and make him feel grubby? Are you as enthusiastic with him as you would like him to be with you?
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Ultimately it's going to come down to communication and trust. It may be that he just flatout refuses to do it ultimately, which will be a hard pill to swallow and you'll have to decide whether that's satisfactory for you. One climax in 13 years is pretty harsh. But then again some women never climax in their life...
Maybe try a 69 position. He may not mind doing it if he's having it done at the same time because he won't be focused on just what he's doing. he might be spurred on by the fact that the better he pleases you the better you may please him. Just an
Also has anyone ran into an issue with their clit getting caught in their partner's teeth? My husband has a slight gap in his front teeth and that hurts like hell. I fake one really quick(which I know I shouldn't) to get him to stop.
It's also possible that he's had a negative introduction to oral sex and therefore doesn't like doing it. This is understandable in a sense. If I was a girl and the first time I'd given a blowjob, I'd ended up gagging on a guy's cock, I wouldn't be keen to go down there again! It's possible that you might need to give him quite a bit of guidance - who knows, you might discover a lot about yourself in the process. If you fancy making things a little more exciting, go the whole hog and do the teacher/student thing - you're the teacher and the student has to please you to get top marks. I admit it sounds cheesy, but it could be a lot of fun. To me, sex isn't just about making babies, it's about having a great time with someone you really care about.
Good luck to you. xxx
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink
Make it bit kinky for him and he might like it more...Think of few things that goes well together...:chin:
I've got one...
Beer and pussy!
LMAO!! I know he likes the pussy but the beer, not so much.
I've tried to get kinky with him, but my kinky side scares him :banghead:
Sometimes I think I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. A friend of mine actually told me once I should get a boy/girl toy for these occassions but I'm a bit nervous to even go that route.
Have you ever tried talking with him about the things you might like to do? Chances are that he's got a few things up his sleeve too!
I have thought about cheating but I know ultimately that would kill the marriage and I don't want that as I love the man.
Well some times you women shut shop when you don’t get your way… you could withdraw bjs/pussy but then your cutting off your nose to spite your face.
Maybe try the slutty teasing way and initiation sex but before you get down to it say ‘unless I start getting some tongue lovin down here these lips aren’t going on {point to he’s meat and two veg} – Give him something to think about at least.
You’re not forcing him to do it merely giving him something to ponder. At the end of the day it’s not like you NEED to have it done. You just want it and why shouldn’t you? If talking with him isn’t going to work then you might have to face up to the fact that he won’t do it. :crying:
People can be so frustrating eh!!
P.s Try the line ‘you’d do it if you loved me’
I love doing it
Some people like it, some dont. Some are embarrased to do it. You ever just try to talk to him?
I am the opposite of your "typical woman" I have never held out sex for any reason. Don't see the point in it really. I enjoy all aspects of sex.
I know I am not forcing him to do it however I think that if I am giving him what he wants (bj's and anal) then I should at least get what I want more often. I'd say on the average for every 15 times he gets his, its 1 time to what I want. That's all I ask for. Just a little more of what I want is all.
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Apart from when you are having foreplay...if you have it?...When he is using his fingers, try gently pushing his head down there and say that you really want to feel his tongue inside you.
Tell him if he does that once a day, you'll not go shopping as much
Ok lets recap;
You don't want to play hard ball with him and withdraw your womanly duties in the bedroom :thumb:
You don't think that you can coax him to do it by teasing him?
You don't want to cheat on him!!
You've tried talking and he closes up on you and you get no where. Which means you can't teach him how to do it or buy him a book on it without him getting all down about it.
So far correct right?
I would try one last ditch heart to heart with him...ensuring that he's listening fully!!! Remind him in a nice, fair way, how much you do for him in the bedroom. Get across that all your wanting is little more tongue action. Go on about the rewards he'll get if he does it and stuff.
If he still goes on about not being about to breath etc then erm....Well, how do you feel about dogs in the bedroom?!?!?
I do have some good news, Saturday night we were fooling around and I told him what to do and it was wonderful. I didn't orgasm during oral but I definitely did later and it was huge! He said he hadn't seen me that turned on in a looooonnnngggg time.
RESULT!
See? And he'll want to see you turned on again and again and again
Personally, I can't understand why a guy wouldn't want to do that for his woman, I love going down on a woman, it is a beautiful experience and so very intimate..... tastes soooo good too
Really hope he learns to enjoy it
Doesn't mean that I don't do it or that I tell girls about my dislike.... it's only polite if you expect a blowjob after all innit.