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Argh help, met a girl but.. but... argh
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Basically.
Got back uni two weeks ago, went out on the thurs after to a party, met this girl chatted to her for ages, walked her back to her bus stop then walked home, I asked her to text me when she got home safe (sly way of giving her my num) and anyway we've pretty much talked every day since.
What do I do? She just invited me to her birthday party too and I'm all bewildered and stuff because I like her and I think she likes me too but I still am hung up over my ex who I still see regularly (but not like that) and life is too complicated. And my ex would be hurt if I went out with someone else. I mean not that she's controlling my life lol it's that I care deeply about her and really still love her a lot, and the feeling is two way, and despite us not being together the feelings are still there, and I don't know.
I'm not really making a compelling case.
Thing is, this girl I'm talking to is pretty cool, she's not normally the kind of girl I'd be attracted to but her personality has knocked me for six she has the same kind of positive outlook on things (as I like to try to have) and my ex as much as I loved her drove me up the wall with this anxious, perpetually self doubting thing. But I think thats more because she had extremely low self esteem after the guy she cheated on me with reallly fucked with her head and threatened to kill himself and stuff and yea she needed counselling after that. Guess it's like poetic justice in a way but nobody deserves to get emotionally blackmailed like that.
But yea this girl and me have been talking and I knew I could ask her on a date at any point and she would 90% say yes (not trying to be arrogant but you know ) but I didn't obviously because I can't decide what to do about her and my ex and life in general, but then she asked me to her birthday party! I mean I know it's not that big a thing but its obvious there's a lot of chemistry and things are manageable at the minute us just texting and msn and such even if thats sad how do i deal with seeing her agains. :eek:
I feel like I'm a lovecheat even if I'm single because I like two girls and it seems like two girls like me and that would be great if it wasnt so complicatd and the girl I first liked didnt have trust issues now but she does but... I think I'm going to go explode now :grump:
Got back uni two weeks ago, went out on the thurs after to a party, met this girl chatted to her for ages, walked her back to her bus stop then walked home, I asked her to text me when she got home safe (sly way of giving her my num) and anyway we've pretty much talked every day since.
What do I do? She just invited me to her birthday party too and I'm all bewildered and stuff because I like her and I think she likes me too but I still am hung up over my ex who I still see regularly (but not like that) and life is too complicated. And my ex would be hurt if I went out with someone else. I mean not that she's controlling my life lol it's that I care deeply about her and really still love her a lot, and the feeling is two way, and despite us not being together the feelings are still there, and I don't know.
I'm not really making a compelling case.
Thing is, this girl I'm talking to is pretty cool, she's not normally the kind of girl I'd be attracted to but her personality has knocked me for six she has the same kind of positive outlook on things (as I like to try to have) and my ex as much as I loved her drove me up the wall with this anxious, perpetually self doubting thing. But I think thats more because she had extremely low self esteem after the guy she cheated on me with reallly fucked with her head and threatened to kill himself and stuff and yea she needed counselling after that. Guess it's like poetic justice in a way but nobody deserves to get emotionally blackmailed like that.
But yea this girl and me have been talking and I knew I could ask her on a date at any point and she would 90% say yes (not trying to be arrogant but you know ) but I didn't obviously because I can't decide what to do about her and my ex and life in general, but then she asked me to her birthday party! I mean I know it's not that big a thing but its obvious there's a lot of chemistry and things are manageable at the minute us just texting and msn and such even if thats sad how do i deal with seeing her agains. :eek:
I feel like I'm a lovecheat even if I'm single because I like two girls and it seems like two girls like me and that would be great if it wasnt so complicatd and the girl I first liked didnt have trust issues now but she does but... I think I'm going to go explode now :grump:
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She sounds cool, go to the party.
Agreed.
Corporal G said so!
I, therefore, also order you to go to the party - in my capacity of Field Marshall, of course.
For that reason I'm not sure it's such a clever thing for you to do to keep the other girl's hopes up because it sounds like if you did try to take things further with her your ex would complicate whatever would happen. She doesn't really deserve that (the new girl).
But like I said, I think your ex is holding your back loads because this girl sounds cool. I don't necessarily think if you were to do something that you should go to the party but a date would probably be more suitable.
:yes: go to the party cinders
All the more excuse to hang around with her all night then.
Its an S&M fetish party. His friends may not wanna go ... :impissed:
Best type of party. Get pissed, don't get trashed and me lots of new intresting people.
Couldn't agree more. This could be a turning point for you shyboy.
Don't most people have overlaps like this anyway? So long as the relationships themselves overlap you don't have a moral dilemma.
Sounds like the opposite anyway: the new girl will be a healthy distraction.
Parties where you don't know anyone are great because it gives you an excuse to talk to everyone. Just watch how much you drink and don't make a cock of yourself.
Dancing on tables is highly encouraged though.
This year on the whole is much better for me anyway, lots of things going on - but it's nice to have some kind of 'romance' (as in, the potential of as apposed to just being friends with everyone) in my life even if I'm not sure how I feel about it.
Never know who else will be at the party... always happens when your head is turned the other way.
A few weeks later, I was asked to go to her birthday party. I turned down the invitation. Why? Because I consider myself to be absolutely useless at social occasions and thought I'd just get in the way. She thought my reasoning was bonkers, and I couldn't agree more. Predictably enough, I regretted the decision immediately but was too damn stubborn to change my mind. Don't make the same mistake.
*hugs back* thanks hun
My grandma used to tell me that its better to regret something you have done than regret that you didn't do anything at all. After all you never know this could be the woman that you share amazing experiences with, or just someone that was nice to know either way if you don't give it a chance then it will just be another what if moment in years to come.
Enjoy xx xx
Don't let this freak you out, its a girl thing.