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fathers right and stuff
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has anyone been in a situation where you are the mother of a child, no longer with the father and dont get on?
i am in this situation and the father is making all sorts of demands at me which i am sure he cannot make and just wanted someone to have a private chat with really so that i know what steps to take.
ive searched online but nothing seems to fit with whats going on with me.
i am in this situation and the father is making all sorts of demands at me which i am sure he cannot make and just wanted someone to have a private chat with really so that i know what steps to take.
ive searched online but nothing seems to fit with whats going on with me.
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This is something that comes up all the time on askTheSite, so our legal experts are used to answering the questions. That isn't to replace the advice you can get on the boards but it might be worth asking a question as well to see how they can help.
From what I can gather though, his legal rights are very limited in this situation. I dont know whether you are working or in receipt of benefits but you might be able to get free legal advice. Have you contacted the CAB?
i have no chance of affording a solicitor, i am on maternity leave now and only get £117 a week before tax! how do i even go about contacting someone or finding out if i am entitled to legal aid?
Obviously i don't know everythign about you but i think it will say that you are entitled to help
ETA that whilst i was looking I came across Gingerbread who looked like they might be of help as well and at least had some useful links.
You should not exclude the father from your childs life as long as he is trying too.
You may not get on, but a friendly chat and co-operation go a long way. Step back for a few moments and think how could you make it fairer, please don't act without due care.
i know you are offering advice and i do appreciate it. but you do not know the whole story. i have never said to him he cannot see the baby, i havent said that even once to him. but he is making unreasonable demands and being threatening towards me.
and yes a chat and co-operation would go a long way, but you are talking to the wrong person here! i have tried time and again and have been more than fair.
please do not assume that i am the problem here.
He is probably finding it hard to understand and then is venting this through anger and agression towards you.
Have a word with him on the phone, tell him you know that he is angry and your willing to talk with him as long as he doesn't get out of hand.
Tell him straight that being angry and agressive isn't going to work and that if he could relax a little you'd be more than willing to consider a plan of action.
I hope for you and your baby's sake that he doesn't do anything stupid.
You could also try giving samaritans a ring as they could probaby organise a mentoring appointment for the both of you.
Best of luck and wish you well in the future.
If you have a look on http://www.lawsociety.org.uk/choosingandusing/findasolicitor.law?=lshome you can find all the solicitors in your area that deal with family law.
Give them a call, and ask if they do legal aid or at least an initial free interview.
I wish I could help more, but I don't know the whole situation, and wouldnt be able to give you the advice you probably need.
Hope it all works out hun.
im pretty sure that isnt a service Samaritans provide
Could be something worth looking into.