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Hello, i just going out with a teacher but i've left school. we are very much in love, couldnt help how we felt but we are anxious the school will react, will it affect to his job or what?
Is it legal for me to going out with him? I'm only 17 and hes 26, but the age is just the numbers!!
I really need the HELP! i dont know what to do, i really love him so much, but my parents, school, losing his job will affect us in big time!?
Everyone is getting know about us, at firstly i lost my great friend of our realtionship cos she think its really sick! So we havent spoke to each other for months, so she said shes sorry and she cant do nothing about it, now all of my friends are accept about our reationship but we want to tell school before they do. but is it worth it?
give me loads of the information would be very appreciation!!!
please!
Is it legal for me to going out with him? I'm only 17 and hes 26, but the age is just the numbers!!
I really need the HELP! i dont know what to do, i really love him so much, but my parents, school, losing his job will affect us in big time!?
Everyone is getting know about us, at firstly i lost my great friend of our realtionship cos she think its really sick! So we havent spoke to each other for months, so she said shes sorry and she cant do nothing about it, now all of my friends are accept about our reationship but we want to tell school before they do. but is it worth it?
give me loads of the information would be very appreciation!!!
please!
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I'm sure someone who knows better will be along, but I *think* and it is only think that as long as the relationship started after you left school and he is in no way responsible for you or a teacher at a school you are still at then it's ok.
That said, can't imagine the school will be too impressed and would probably prefer you kept a reasonably low profile.
at least its good to hear that you are serious rather than it just being lust.
you're old enough now to do what you want. just be careful. at your age, it may also be a sense of admiration rather than love.
What I would do is get your bloke to talk this over with his union representative (if he is in a union) and make sure he has support should he need to call on them. It should not affect his career but you can't be sure that some head teacher or colleague with a moral chip on their shoulder won't make life difficult.
He should have nothing to fear but I would get him to talk it over with his union rep just so they are aware; they will also be able to advise with workplace issues and governance.
However, by no longer being at the school no offence is being comitted as the position of trust no longer exists.
Others are right though, questions might be asked about when the relationship started.
Age is not "just numbers". There is a whole world of difference between your ages but this could go real bad for your teacher because he's a professional, and trust is primary in the eyes of his colleagues who would take a dim view of his conduct in dating one of his pupils. Also, you stand a big chance of ruining his career but if you weren't a student in the same college as he, then things might be different.
For a while I would take a few steps back and lets things cool between you. Take a good hard look at where you could end up, and not his bed I mean but your whole future with friends and family and your chances of ever staying together.
Poppi