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Are all relationships doomed???
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Hi Guys
Ok so i am a bit of a Pessimist at the moment as i have just come out of a relationship but i just feel like, what is the point??? I am 26 years old, am i realistically going to fall in love and be with that person for the next 30-40 years??? What is the point in getting to know someone and trying so hard to make it work for it just to all end in tears! Why do relationships change so much, why cant they just stay how they are in the first 2-3 months all the time!!???
I have had 3 relationships already, how many more times do i have to go through this before i find the "one" I am just sick of it to be honest. I look at my friends who have been in 5-6 years relationships and they have houses and i know its horrible but what are the odds that they will still be with that person in 10 years? We put all that effort in and its like why???
I am not depressed or anything and if i am honest i know that the last guy i was with just wasnt meant to be but the thought of meeting someone again and opening my heart to them and trusting them to be let down again is just something i cant bare to think about, i am honestly considering becoming a player lol at least that way i wont get hurt.......
Anyways just having a rant, any thoughts???
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Ok so i am a bit of a Pessimist at the moment as i have just come out of a relationship but i just feel like, what is the point??? I am 26 years old, am i realistically going to fall in love and be with that person for the next 30-40 years??? What is the point in getting to know someone and trying so hard to make it work for it just to all end in tears! Why do relationships change so much, why cant they just stay how they are in the first 2-3 months all the time!!???
I have had 3 relationships already, how many more times do i have to go through this before i find the "one" I am just sick of it to be honest. I look at my friends who have been in 5-6 years relationships and they have houses and i know its horrible but what are the odds that they will still be with that person in 10 years? We put all that effort in and its like why???
I am not depressed or anything and if i am honest i know that the last guy i was with just wasnt meant to be but the thought of meeting someone again and opening my heart to them and trusting them to be let down again is just something i cant bare to think about, i am honestly considering becoming a player lol at least that way i wont get hurt.......
Anyways just having a rant, any thoughts???
XXXXXXXXXXX
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Nothing lasts forever, and I am quite glad of that. Just enjoy the good times whilst they are there.
There might not be any reason at all, except for procreating and put your seed to life.
That's the whole point.
/e: Try to see it from this point of view: You wouldn't know what a nice, healthy, fulfilling relationship is, if you hadn't had the crap ones. yea it's like g_angel said. Those things happen, just take them as they are and live with it. Nobody has a perfect life from day 1 on.
It will happen. There will be someone for you. Just be yourself!
Hell at least i aint bitter and still do believe in love, think i just need a time out xxxx
But what is the alternative? Fancy spending the rest of your life entirely cut off from human contact?
Thats really really true. I feel so much more grateful and lucky to have what i do now because i have had shit ones to compare it to
Look back at what triggered the breakdown of your past relationships. See if there is a pattern to why you split up. Then next time before you embark on a relationship remember your downfalls.
Poppi
Indeed :yes:
Add to the mix that people are more selfish these days spells doom and gloom for most relationships.
I totally agree with you. I have 3 long term failed relationships behind me and I am in another realtionship and that is goign down the scrap heap to.
Like you I think what is the point as is ther the one out there for me, what is this the 'ONE' business anyway. I would have some time out if i were you and just enjoy yourself and not get to involved with anyone, it's a lot easier. Get your own place and just see people, that way they are always on ther ebest behaviour and you can tell them to do one if they start. Realtionships are not what they used to be, peopl do not try as hard at them anymore. They are hard work and unles you are prepaired to put the effort it they just go down the pan. Have fune and be free and live life on an even keel. Then one day someone might come along who you think is really special but take your time with it and don't move in with them as that's when you have to start working at it and the honey moon period goes well out the window.
Smutmyster
But which would you rather have - Take the risk in giving another relationship a chance? Or never letting yourself fall for someone who wants to fall for you?
It sucks when it don't work, but damn, it feels good when it does work for those wee moments that makes us appreciate life so much more. Even if it might only lasts for so long.
Okies, you got me. I'm an aul softie when it comes to soppy shit like that. But I donnie care