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Asking for hand in marriage
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Would you prefer if your other half asked your parents for your hand in marriage before they ask you or do you think it's abit old fashioned???
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They ask me, down on one knee and I say yes or no afterall I'm marrying them not my parents
Also I think it's from the days where people married according to alliances and status in society, hence ensuring that the match was suitable.
Agreed, and I think my dad would be freaked out as well!
Half the fun of getting engaged is telling everybody. It kinda spoils it if some people already know. My mum guessed before I could tell her :grump:. Although she did say pregnant first .
I think if you were going to propose to someone, you'd know them well enough to have a good idea of whether they'd go for the asking dad thing.
My husband mentioned it once before he asked me and I laughed, so he knew what i thought then
Good job really because for some unknown reason my dad seems to think it won't last.
Ooo, my dad doesn't either!! Just makes me even more determined to prove him wrong since he's normally right about everything else
My mum approves though, and she is the foremost authority on dodgy boyfriends.
even though i'm 16, i wouldn't care if they asked my parents or not because what really matters is how u feel for each other, if u wanna spend the rest of ur lives togther then I would ask my other half
I personally thing thats its quite old fashioned to ask the parents
but its really up to whoes asking
This is pretty much what we did. It worked for us
I think it depends on you, your partner and the relationship with the family. I'm really close to my family, and my other half knew that it was really important to me that they all got on, so I think it was a nice touch. But then it might not work for someone in a different situation.
Like someone else has said, if you know them well enough to marry them, you should know how they stand on the matter.