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My life is ruined.
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Hi I'm Frank.
Throughout my whole life i have treated people wrongly. I am a compulsive liar and I cant stop doing it. When I drink I do the most stupid and selfish things possible. Lately there is a rumour about me going around my local town. The rumour is true but i cant face even leaving my house because of it. I've closed all contact with my "friends" and now have resorted to sitting in my house after work and all the weekend. I am getting extreme Paranoia every time I leave my house because i cant bear to hear peoples comments and laughing at the rumour going around town about me. How am i supposed to deal with this. For the rest of my life I can honestly see myself sitting here, I'm half suicidal at the moment i really don't know where to turn.
Throughout my whole life i have treated people wrongly. I am a compulsive liar and I cant stop doing it. When I drink I do the most stupid and selfish things possible. Lately there is a rumour about me going around my local town. The rumour is true but i cant face even leaving my house because of it. I've closed all contact with my "friends" and now have resorted to sitting in my house after work and all the weekend. I am getting extreme Paranoia every time I leave my house because i cant bear to hear peoples comments and laughing at the rumour going around town about me. How am i supposed to deal with this. For the rest of my life I can honestly see myself sitting here, I'm half suicidal at the moment i really don't know where to turn.
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You do need to go out, try and go somewhere away for the day, or do some things with people/friends who wont know.
How bad is the rumour/truth anyway?
If you get sacked over it, you will have hit the jackpot with an employment tribunal.
/e: After reading what happened I don't think it's half as bad as you make it out to be. Who fucking cares? If your mum asks, say you were drunk as shit and that you're 110% not gay. If not, let her think whatever.
I totally agree with the above quote.
People always do something stupid when drunk and someone else will do something stupid and you'll be old news
I hope you feel better soon. You do not need to move or hide, or even feel embarrassed. Face the town, face the world and you'll realise you can take it on and win.
good luck
How did they find this out anyway? Did you - or the other guy - tell someone? And if he did, wouldn't he be in the same position as you?
These days, a drunken indiscretion with someone of the same sex, should be no big deal. I am presuming that you may be from some small US town? Regretably, it may be the case that their narrow-mindedness may be as great as yours.
I mean, for goodness sake, in the great big scheme of things, how bad can it be??? If you are indeed selfish and a compulsive liar, they probably hate you anyway. Perhaps it is time to pull up sticks and move where you can make a new start in your personal life (i.e. stop lying and being selfish).
You're contemplating suicide? Over this? My words may seem unsympathetic and harsh but you gotta keep it real. It's not like you have robbed, raped and murdered anyone. I presume.
Try and get some help with the compulsive lying and take it from there. Speaking to somebody professional about it would do you the world of good and give you a better perspective.
what i did was just laugh and say that i know, and that i was drunk and it soon died down
obv. situation may be different but thats probs the quickest way to get this forgotten if anyone brings it up