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attending "family" functions
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so yeah right now im supposed to be at a christening but i kinda didnt go. and im getting gyp from my bf and mostly mum about it.
the christening is for my boyfriend's nanna's sister's son's baby. like wtf?! so i said i didnt really want to go because i know none of the people involved. my boyfriend himself barely knows the guy who had the baby and doesnt even know his wife at all, doesnt even know if the baby was a boy or girl. but he's going because its "family". and apparently, according to my mum, its very rude etc that im not going because its "family".
i have no problem attending family functions for aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents and the like but when 1st cousins and great aunties's nephew's dogs are involved, i dont feel entirely comfortable, like, gatecrashing parties of people i dont know and stuff.
ugh. the fact that i really really dislike my bfs family doesnt help the matter haha. but do you think i was right or wrong in not attending??
the christening is for my boyfriend's nanna's sister's son's baby. like wtf?! so i said i didnt really want to go because i know none of the people involved. my boyfriend himself barely knows the guy who had the baby and doesnt even know his wife at all, doesnt even know if the baby was a boy or girl. but he's going because its "family". and apparently, according to my mum, its very rude etc that im not going because its "family".
i have no problem attending family functions for aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents and the like but when 1st cousins and great aunties's nephew's dogs are involved, i dont feel entirely comfortable, like, gatecrashing parties of people i dont know and stuff.
ugh. the fact that i really really dislike my bfs family doesnt help the matter haha. but do you think i was right or wrong in not attending??
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But I don't think you did anything wrong in not attending, don't think you should feel bad about it. Just say you had bad period cramps.
In future though, just say you have religious objections to Christenings. That'll get you out of any church function.
Mind you, you say your bf really wanted you to go, and i might have gone if it was really important to my bf
Maybe he wanted to show you off to his family ..
Also he might be thinking big family gatherings are a good way to introduce you to the rest of the family you've not yet met.
if not, i wouldnt be arsed about it x
I'd probably have gone but I'm quite nosey and would want to find out about that side of the family, ha.
When it's your own family prehaps but I wouldnt be comfortable going to my boyfriend's distant relation's christening.
That's why I said I don't think you have to or should feel bad about not going.
Half of my 'family' I don't even think I'm related to, it depends on each person and how they feel about that kind of thing.