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Breaking up
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do you think that when you are in a relationship, you should know deep down in your heart when you should break up with someone?
i'm having trouble with it all...in some respects i feel like i should end things with my boyfriend but in other ways im much too scared to. im scared, in case i make a mistake in doing it and then it'll be all messed up. also i still feel like im in love with him but that hes just not good for me. and when i think of the nice bits of our relationship it makes me want to stay with him but the bad things outweigh the good at the moment :[ my mum and a few of my friends have said i should end it but you can't listen to them can you, even though sometimes they know best.
im so confused, i guess this is a bit rambly, i think i just want to know off people with more experience than me what they think about ending relationships. ta.
i'm having trouble with it all...in some respects i feel like i should end things with my boyfriend but in other ways im much too scared to. im scared, in case i make a mistake in doing it and then it'll be all messed up. also i still feel like im in love with him but that hes just not good for me. and when i think of the nice bits of our relationship it makes me want to stay with him but the bad things outweigh the good at the moment :[ my mum and a few of my friends have said i should end it but you can't listen to them can you, even though sometimes they know best.
im so confused, i guess this is a bit rambly, i think i just want to know off people with more experience than me what they think about ending relationships. ta.
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I think if things are meant to be, if u leave him, you'll come back together.
I also think, you're scared of being lonely? I was that for a long time. Now I love it
things wont change so i did it. feel so upset though :crying:
Bless you. I know that feeling, and it's rubbish, but you know it was the right thing to do, and it gets better.
Hope you're feeling happier soon :yes:
Take good care of yourself.
my wife left me after 15 years and I was devastated. I thought I was happily married. 18 months later, and after having much time on my own to really look at things, I have to realise that we weren't. time lends a different perspective to all things, and now I don't quite know how we manged to keep it going so long ? if it's wrong, it's wrong. this isn't a practise run, babe... you only have one life. whatever decision you make, Life will always make it the right one. my wife did me a favour, though I'll probably never let her know that. And there are other worlds out there ...
aw thanks helen (& everyone else)
apparently im not that good at breaking up with people because now we're on a a 'break' whatever that means, just some time so we can decide how we feel properly, he really needs to change a bit for us to get back together though and start treating me a bit nicer. he text me today saying he missed me and now i feel like we're not even broke up at all even though iv not seen him. ahhh its so weird.
I did that when I tried breaking up with an ex...ended up wussing out and saying we should go on a break...she just spent the whole time texting me anyway so it was like we were still together, just didn't see eachother for a few weeks. It didn't work, we got back together even though I didn't want to, I cheated on her and then we broke up..
Just make sure that if you are on a break, that you are on a real break if you want to give it a chance to work. PM me if you wanna talk xxxx
You can chew my ear anytime. x
ahh do you really think so? a whole month? :nervous: iv lasted 4 days so far and im already considering caving in
he was the one who suggested the break. we broke up then 3 hours later he text and asked me, i probably scared him or something. ahh relationships are so annoying.
thank youuu, iv got lots of things planned for the next week or so, so i cant spend time brooding about it. hmm.
Yep, if the relationship has a good foundation a month will be hard but it wont change your feelings for each other. If however its in trouble you'll know and can split for good.
But if you are forever texting each other you might as well just keep dating and the relationship will drift on and you wont get the answer you obviously need.
breaking up is one of the hardest things in the world