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i cant have kids...cant i
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well some of you might remeber me from a few months back. well ive got a new prob. that girl ive been going out with... well me and her have always had un protected sex, and we've had it around 90 times. but she never gets
pregnant. she has her periods month in month out. but the never even got pregnant before. is it time to acsept that i cant have kids? after all im still 16
well some of you might remeber me from a few months back. well ive got a new prob. that girl ive been going out with... well me and her have always had un protected sex, and we've had it around 90 times. but she never gets
pregnant. she has her periods month in month out. but the never even got pregnant before. is it time to acsept that i cant have kids? after all im still 16
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It isnt necessarily you, it could be her.
You can theoretically get pregnant any time you have sex, but in reality, for lots of people it takes ages even when theyre trying for a baby. Docotrs dont even consider you may have a fertility problem after 2 years of trying.
Why are you having unprotected sex? What are you going to do if she gets pregnant?
When i was 16 my biggest fear was getting pregnant! i woulda been stoked if i couldnt! but i wouldnt have tryed either
As the others have mentioned - are you both proactively trying for a baby? I think one of the most important things is that you both know you are clean of sexually transmitted infections before you have unprotected sex. Have either of you been to a sexual health/GUM clinic before?
It's important to know each other's sexual history before you have unprotected sex. If you have, then that's really good, but just wanted to mention it if not.
It does take a long time to get pregnant for some people, but if you're really worried about it then you could go to your GP. Bear in mind that because of your age and if you say you aren't actually trying for a baby, they may not necessarily refer you onto a specialist though.
All the best
Pearly
Are you actually trying to get her pregnant?
Just because you love each other doesnt mean you need to have unprotected sex?
A baby is a HUGE HUGE HUGE commitment for the rest of your lives, and whilst im sure you do love each other, after 5 months, at age 16 if you want to really give this relationship a go, then there are a lot more appropriate ways of going about that, than trying for a baby.
5 months of unprotected sex is NOTHING. Seriously. That doesnt mean you are infertile at all. It doesnt necessarily even mean youd have difficulty conceiving tbh.
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That's exactly what I was going to say. At 16 and after 5 months you need to question whether you're really in the right situation to have a child. The put a lot of pressure on a relationship and it can be costly as well. Have you thought it through properly? It's definately not a decision to be taken lightly.
He said "yup" I think that means he want's kids.
I used these guys http://www.accessdiagnostics.co.uk/
And I agree with SCC as well. Your very young and the realstionship does seem pretty new to start trying to conceive a baby. Having one will change your life forever and its a very long term commitment.
It doesnt mean you cant get someone pregnant, most Drs wont even consider giving you any tests until you've tried for at least two years.
hahahahaa very good :flirt:
I'll pencil you for a "taster" session :hyper:
nah i just found it weird that we have done it soo many times that she never got pregnant, so i found it awkward.
Just because you havent got her pregnant yet i wouldnt risk it
If you have unprotected sex 90 times, tbh youre either trying for a baby or trying for an abortion. I think thats very very selfish and you should have a proper talk with each other and get some sort of contraception sorted out very very soon, because
You realise the chances are that she will actually become pregnant at some point soon if you carry on without using anything.
What are your plans for when that happens?
Good luck Hope it happens quickly for you! :thumb:
Well if you are not trying for a kid, how come you classified this as a problem? be thankful she's not pregnant and don't question it.
btw! if you don't want any kids, maybe you should use protection now before it's too late!
Good luck:thumb:
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Good luck and congratulations on the decision. I'm sure you already know but a good way to know when fertile is checking your bbt (morning temp basically). When fertile it'll rise slightly where as the rest of the month it's pretty much stable.