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My stepfather has been having an affair
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I found this out last night. My younger brother told me. He was with my mum when she found out, which was yesterday. He then had to tell me and our other younger brother who is away at uni, he also had to go and find my stepfather and tell him that Mum knew and not to come back to the house. I don't know how long it's been going on or how my mother found out. My mum has gone to stay with a friend who lives quite far away but I'm going to be speaking to her on the phone later. I don't know how long she'll be gone for or when I'll be able to see her. I don't live very close to them, about an hour away. I just don't know what to do. I want to kill him, I want to make him hurt for ruining her life all over again after she worked so hard to build it back up after she divorced my father (they split up because he was an alcoholic). Why the f*ck does stuff like this keep happening to her? She is the most selfless and kindest person I know and she has done f*ck all to deserve this. What can I do? I don't even know where to start.
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Your poor mother. Some people just do have shit luck in relationships. Its bound to make you feel very angry. Just be there for her and try not to put her under any pressure in case she decides to try and make it work
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The only advice i can give you is that its really important that you dont let them bring you into their arguements, even though you have taken a side and have every right to!! Just make sure that they keep treating you like a child rather than a friend just because you are older. Because otherwise you will probably find out alot of things you dont want to know.
and dont listen to anyone if they tell you that it shouldnt hurt as much because he's 'not your real dad'!
If you ever want to talk PM me because this happened to me and i know how hard it is!
Its not always good to be brought into it.
My mum and stepdad (his affair) split up when i was 19 or 20. Id already left home but i found it really hard.
Sorry to rant. I'm not expecting any answers or a magical solution. I just have so much I want to say and no-one to say it to.
BTW Men are dogs.