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So, I finally got into a relationship - with a lovely guy!
It seems to have lasted 3 weeks and now, no answer to texts or calls (only of each mind!). Should I do nothing now, walk away?
I have been thinking of sending an email in a few days but now I'm not sure. Everything was great, I just have No Idea what I have done wrong.
Any words of advice?
Thanks
It seems to have lasted 3 weeks and now, no answer to texts or calls (only of each mind!). Should I do nothing now, walk away?
I have been thinking of sending an email in a few days but now I'm not sure. Everything was great, I just have No Idea what I have done wrong.
Any words of advice?
Thanks
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If its only been a day, maybe he has been busy, left his phone at home or his battery is dead.
If its longer, then it might just be one of those things where he doesn't want to see you again but is too cowardly to actually tell you where you stand.
It has been five days now.
is an email at any point appropriate.
i feel terrible, i just don't know what i have done..
Try not to beat yourself up about it. You probably haven't done anything wrong! Perhaps he never viewed it as serious. If he's dumped you by ignoring you then be glad you're rid of him - the guy obviously doesn't have any balls!! Tosser.
Its happened to me in the past.
Lost my virginity to the bastard then he fucked off two days later and finally when he talked to me said 'i dont want a gf right now'
If you tried ringing once, and one text, it might be premature just giving up. Presumably they were on the same day, could be possible his phone was off, or he forgot to text back.
You'd think that if you were in a relationship that the other party would get back to you at some point or let you know what's up. I personally wouldn't view that kind of behaviour kindly if I had been led to believe I had entered a relationship.
I've gone through similar things, and am sort of dealing with a no-contact thing right now. Except we were not in any kind of relationship so I realise I'm not owed anything. It sucks not to hear anything, even a bastardly rejection is better than silence, but you have got to grab the reins and decide where to draw the line.
Try not to initiate contact. You've tried already and the ball's in his court. Of course, you should try your very best not to think about it or be waiting in particular. If he's spineless then that's his problem. If he gets back to you he'll probably have an excuse or even a reason and you'll just deal with it IF it happens.
Take care, and don't beat yourself up about it!
Perhaps it is time to see this as a type of break/break up and go out and socialise, see your friends, keep busy, and eventually you might hear from him.If you dont, perhaps at this point you could as you say emailing him and find out!
Try not to let him rule your days and enjoy yourself!
Good luck xxx
He eventaully rang confessing that he's not over his ex.
I appreciate the eventual honesty, am gutted but feel better.
But people - be honest, don't ever make anyone go through this!!
Thanks for the kind words.....