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Problems when 'fingering'
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Been going out with my girlfriend for about a month and although not very experienced before I met her she enjoyed me fingering her and I made her orgasm regularly (well I think so! :razz: )
But last couple of times I've done it I haven't mader her orgasm, she gets very close but doesn't achive it and says "nope" and then we stop.
It is disheartning for me as I want to pleasure her and also don't want to feel I am doing something wrong.
Wondering if anyone has any advice? I know everyone is unique but could it be her being tired, stressed etc or maybe I'm doing something wrong?
Thanks
But last couple of times I've done it I haven't mader her orgasm, she gets very close but doesn't achive it and says "nope" and then we stop.
It is disheartning for me as I want to pleasure her and also don't want to feel I am doing something wrong.
Wondering if anyone has any advice? I know everyone is unique but could it be her being tired, stressed etc or maybe I'm doing something wrong?
Thanks
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Best way to finger a girl is gently whilst you go down on her. Pretty much will score you more than one orgasm!
Depending on how much you've already done together (you didn't say if you've progressed past this stage of sexual activity): You could use a vibrator, go down on her, or you could even get her to do the 'reverse cowgirl' for sex and let her finish herself off that way...
If you're not ready to move past fingering then I would agree with the others and say spend more time leading up to it (hell, do that anyway) and perhaps when she says she can't, you could ask her if she wants you to try something else? The only way you'll know for sure is if you ask her...
:yes: That's the secret really innit.
Also, if she doesn't mind, let her take you up there with one of her fingers, she'll let you know where the right spots are.
I know if I think I hear something coming up the stairs I tense up, you get so close then it subsides and you have to start all over again building it up. :impissed:
I boss my darling about like there is no tomorrow but he likes it. I think.
What I did to get her to orgasm the first time was I listened to what she liked and I continued it. She said THAT in itself was a turn on because most guys do not listen and just do whatever. So listen to her and be patient. Do not be afraid to ask her if she likes it a certain way or not. Continue with the way she does like it.
let he show u how she wants it done n boi u best be gettin some tin after u do all da work fingerin her lol
or simply one word
buy her a dildo:D
omg?
:crazyeyes
Basically - tell her it DOESN'T MATTER if she doesn't orgasm, to just relax and get pleasure from it. She'll cum soon enough, provided you're actually doing it right. But you gotta take away the pressure to orgasm.
Mate. Type fucking English, you're coming a across like a complete fuck-tard - and I ain't no 'batty boy' you wannabe street-rat. :yeees:
At 14, most girls will not have the confidence/lack of embarrassment to show you what they like, simple as.
Have you tried oral? I've always found it better for both me and for her.
Oh, and without pointing out your correctly spelled but miscounted words................................................. You should be able to take care of your lady, as well as her taking care of herself. Jesus. 14 indeed.