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being hurt again and again
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its jus happened to me for the 2nd time in a year, couldnt offer anymore to a girl, but i always pick one with issues. Im okay looking, nice person, but a lot more assertive than i used to be, and just wondered how someone who is actually decent can just keep gettin hurt?!
I cant wait to find out what a girl who genuinely likes me for me is going to be like, surely things have gotta take a turn for the better soon?! It seems you can be everything to a girl and she will turn u away because she is not used to a decent bloke who doesnt argue with and put in her place...
its crazy, i dont have a clue anymore
I cant wait to find out what a girl who genuinely likes me for me is going to be like, surely things have gotta take a turn for the better soon?! It seems you can be everything to a girl and she will turn u away because she is not used to a decent bloke who doesnt argue with and put in her place...
its crazy, i dont have a clue anymore
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Life and love is constantly unfair and fucked up, decent blokes will get rejected and hurt whilst dickheads get girls eating out of the palm of their hands.
Unfortunately things just work out like that, and we have to just be patient and hope that it will work out for us in the end.
Aye, always seems to work that way don't it. Normally works that the nice guy has to watch on but don't give up lol, plenty out there!
what is her place?
Careful Matt, I can smell an ambush
:rolleyes: @ self
I quite agree, so long as you buy her roses when you chain her to the kitchen sink its all OK.
Being rejected sucks, but it's nothing to do with being nice, and if you're a bastard you'll be rejected a lot more.
From a girl's persepective MattLiverpool is right.
I've now dumped a couple blokes now for being too nice. Don't ask me why, it just annoys the hell out of me.
:yes: It's as though they've no back bone and will go out of their way to please you instead of standing up for themselves.
I honestly couldn't have said it any better. I used to be your typical "nice guy"....oh God. I met this girl in 2005................. Two words: NEVER AGAIN!!!!!!
I always take the piss and say "everyone loves a bastard" but it is true to a certain extent, some girls would love your arse off if you were a complete bastard to them most of the time but that wouldn't make you happy cos thats not who you are.
You do as others have said need to find that compromise, if you let them walk all over you, let them win every argument, then in my experience they will never love you.
I've being in relationships on both sides, ones where I've ruled the roost because I've not let myself fall in love cos of being hurt in the past and when I've being the loved up one and the other half has ruled the roost, both ways have always ended up the same and that is that your not together anymore, neither way is right cracking in the end to tell you truth, you need to find a girl where theres that compromise, where neither of you rules the roost!!
I think I've just find that now and I've just turned 25 and had plenty of girls and a number of long term relationships, so like I said to start with, try and get over it and make sure you learn from your mistakes and then the same thing won't happen next time!!
Huni, seriously, you prob have so much to give, just wait for it to happen. You'll be happy one day, I promise you that.